List of Kinks: The A to Z Guide to 235 Kinks, Fetishes and Turn-Ons

If you have ever wondered what a kink actually is, what that unfamiliar word on a forum means, or whether the thing you secretly think about has a name, you are in the right place. This is a complete A to Z list of 235 kinks, fetishes, practices, and fantasy tropes, each with a plain-English explanation of what it is, what is involved, and what to know before you try it. Every entry is numbered, grouped into categories, and linked to the full guides on this site.

Everything here is written for adults, about activities between consenting adults. Nothing on this page is meant to push you toward anything. It is a map, and you decide where you want to go.

Kink, fetish, fantasy, trope: what is the difference?

People use these words loosely, so here is how this guide uses them.

A kink is any sexual interest or practice outside what most people think of as conventional. Spanking, blindfolds, roleplay, and handcuffs all count. A kink is usually something you add to sex, and you can enjoy it or leave it.

A fetish is a stronger pull toward a specific object, material, or body part, such as latex, feet, or high heels. For some people a fetish is a bonus. For others it is close to a requirement for arousal. If you want to read more about the gap between the two, the kinkster and vanilla entries are a good place to start.

A fantasy is something you enjoy imagining, whether or not you ever want to do it. Plenty of people love a scenario in their head that they would never want in real life, and that is completely fine.

A trope is a story pattern, such as enemies to lovers or the forbidden affair, that shows up in erotic fiction and sometimes gets acted out in roleplay. We have included the most popular ones because they are often how people first discover what they like.

Having a kink is common and normal. Interest in unusual things does not make you broken, and you do not need to justify it. What matters is that everyone involved is an adult, informed, and enthusiastic.

Before you try anything: the ground rules

Almost every entry below comes with a safety note, but these basics apply to all of them.

1. Consent comes first, every time. Everyone involved must be an adult, must understand what is happening, and must be able to say no or stop at any moment. Our guide to consent culture covers the mindset.
2. Talk before you play. A short conversation about wants, limits, health, and what to do if something goes wrong is called scene negotiation. Sort out your hard and soft limits in advance.
3. Agree on a way to stop. A safeword (or a simple signal if someone cannot speak) works at any time and is never argued with. Many people use red for stop and yellow for slow down.
4. Stay sober. Alcohol and drugs blur consent and judgment. Skip them when trying something new.
5. Start small. Try the gentle version first. You can always go further next time, but you cannot undo a bad experience.
6. Learn the skill. Rope, impact, and anything that breaks skin or restricts breathing are skills. Take a class, read a good guide, or learn from an experienced person.
7. Practice safer sex. Use protection, clean toys properly, and never share anything that touches blood.
8. Look after each other afterward. Aftercare means checking in, cuddling, and having water and a blanket ready. Intense play can leave people emotional or shaky, and care afterward makes a real difference.

The kink community talks about two frameworks. SSC stands for safe, sane, and consensual. RACK stands for risk-aware consensual kink, and recognizes that some activities cannot be made completely safe, only understood. Both put consent at the center.

How to use this list

The list is alphabetical, so you can jump straight to a letter using the index below. Each entry has a number, a category, a short description of what it is, what is involved, and a note on what to know before you try it. Where we have a full glossary page, there is a link at the bottom of the entry.

Jump to a letter: A | B | C | D | E | F | G | H | I | J | K | L | M | N | O | P | Q | R | S | T | U | V | W | X | Y | Z

Not sure where to start? Take our kink quiz and see what your answers say about you, or browse by category below.

Browse by category

If you would rather browse by theme than by letter, here is every entry grouped by category. Each name links to its entry further down.

Power & Control

Dominance, submission, rules, and the many ways people trade authority.

BDSM, Body Worship, Brat, Brat Tamer, Chastity Play, Degradation Kink, Domestic Discipline, Dom/Sub Dynamic, Facesitting, Femdom, Financial Domination, Foot Worship, Humiliation Play, Master/Slave Dynamic, Muscle Worship, Objectification Play, Orgasm Control, Orgasm Denial, Protocol Play, Queening, Service Submission, Spitting, Submission, Switch, Top/Bottom Dynamic, Total Power Exchange (TPE), Worship Play

Pain & Sensation

Impact, sting, heat, cold, and everything that makes skin pay attention.

Ballbusting, Cane Play, Clothespin and Clamp Play, Cock and Ball Torture (CBT), Electro Play, Face Slapping, Figging, Flogger Play, Hair Pulling, Impact Play, Marking and Biting, Masochism, Paddle Play, Riding Crop Play, Sadism, Spanking, Temperature Play, Trampling, Wax Play, Whipping

Bondage & Restraint

Rope, cuffs, gags, and the art of staying put.

Bondage, Gag Play, Hogtie, Mummification, Predicament Bondage, Rope Bondage, Rope Suspension, Self Bondage, Shibari, Zip-Tie Bondage

Roleplay & Fantasy

Characters, scenarios, and stories acted out between consenting adults.

Boss and Employee Roleplay, Captive Roleplay, Consensual Non-Consent (CNC), Cosplay Fetish, Doctor and Patient Roleplay, Forced Feminization, Giantess Fetish, Girlfriend Experience (GFE), Human Furniture, Interrogation Roleplay, Kidnapping Roleplay, Maid Fetish, Medical Play, Nurse Roleplay, Roleplay, Secretary Fetish, Vampirism, Vore, Wrestling Fetish

Clothing & Materials Fetish

Latex, lace, leather, nylon, and the fabrics and outfits people fall for.

Alternative Aesthetic Fetish (Goth, Punk, Emo), Apron Fetish, Balloon Fetish, Bodypaint Fetish, Bodystocking Fetish, Bodysuit Fetish, Boot Fetish, Bra Fetish, Bunny Ears Fetish, Choker Fetish, Collar Fetish, Corset Fetish, Fishnet Fetish, Fur Fetish, Garter Fetish, Glove Fetish, Harness Fetish, Heel Fetish, Inflation Fetish, Latex Fetish, Leather Fetish, Lingerie Fetish, Lipstick Fetish, Lycra and Spandex Fetish, Mask Fetish, Nylon Fetish, Oil Fetish, Panty Fetish, Pantyhose Fetish, Robe Fetish, Rubber Fetish, Satin Fetish, Silk Fetish, Smoking Fetish, Sock Fetish, Stocking Fetish, Swimsuit Fetish, Thigh-High Fetish, Underwear Fetish, Uniform Fetish, Veil Fetish, Wedding Dress Fetish, Wet Look Fetish, Wetsuit Fetish, Yoga Pants Fetish, Zentai

Body Part Fetish

Feet, hair, hands, and the parts of a person that get singled out.

Amazon Fetish, Anal Play, Armpit Fetish, Curvy Admiration, Foot Fetish, Hair Fetish, Hand Fetish, Lactation Kink, Leg Fetish, Mature Women Attraction, Nail Fetish, Navel Fetish, Nipple Play, Pegging, Petite Preference, Piercing Fetish, Pregnancy Fetish, Redhead Fetish, Size Kink, Tattoo Fetish, Thigh Fetish

Display & Watching

Being seen, watching, and sharing the view.

Body Writing, Candaulism, Exhibitionism, Glory Holes, Outdoor and Public Play, Play Party, Public Humiliation (Discreet), Striptease, Voyeurism

Relationship Structures

Open, poly, swinging, and other ways of arranging love and sex.

Age-Gap Attraction, Cuckolding, Cuckqueaning, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Female-Led Relationship (FLR), Free Use, Hotwifing, Jealousy Play, Male-Led Relationship (MLR), Open Relationship, Polyamory, Sugar Baby Dynamic, Swinging, Throuple, Wife Sharing

Pets, Ages & Identity

Pet play, little space, and playing with who you are for an evening.

ABDL, Age Play, Age Regression, Bunny Play, Caregiver and Little (CGL), Cross-Dressing, Daddy Dynamic, DDLG, Furries (Anthropomorphic Fandom), Gender Play, Hucow, Kitten Play, Little Space, MDLB, Mommy Dynamic, Owner/Pet Dynamic, Pet Play, Pony Play, Primal Play, Puppy Play, Sissy Kink

Mind & Senses

Teasing, trance, blindfolds, and play that happens mostly in the head.

Blindfold Play, Dacryphilia, Edging, Feather Teasing, Gooning, Hypnosis Kink, Mind Control (Consensual), Multiple Orgasm Play, Overstimulation, Quiet Play, Ruined Orgasm, Scent Fetish, Sensation Play, Sensory Deprivation, Sensory Overload Play, Teasing, Tickling

Language & Sound

Dirty talk, praise, instructions, and the power of a voice.

Auralism, Dirty Talk, Jerk Off Instruction (JOI), Praise Kink, Sexting and Erotic Chat

Food, Mess & Fluids

Food play, mess, and wetter fetishes.

Fart Fetish, Feederism, Food Play, Sploshing (Wet and Messy), Urolagnia (Watersports)

Edge Play

Higher-risk practices that call for training, caution, and respect.

Blood Play, Breath Play, Edge Play, Fire Play, Knife Play, Needle Play

Tropes & Fantasy Themes

Story patterns and fantasy themes common in erotic fiction.

Alpha and Beta Dynamic, Bimbofication, Breeding Kink, Dollification, Enemies to Lovers, Forbidden Romance, Infidelity Fantasy, Knotting, Monster Girl Fetish, Tentacles, Transformation Fetish

Gear & Setting

Equipment, venues, and the practical side of kink.

Scene Negotiation, Vanilla, X-Frame (St. Andrew's Cross)

A Kinks

11 entries under A. Back to the index

1. ABDL

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: ABDL stands for Adult Baby / Diaper Lover. It covers adults who enjoy babyish clothing, nursery settings, or diapers, either as comfort, as play, as erotic charge, or all three. Some people are into the diaper itself, some into the "baby" headspace, and plenty into both.

What is involved: Typical elements are diapers, onesies, pacifiers, bottles, cribs, and a partner or caregiver who looks after the "baby" for the length of the scene. For many people it is as much about being cared for and letting go of adult responsibility as it is about anything sexual. See Adult Baby for the identity side and Little Space for the mental state.

Know before you try it: Everyone involved is an adult, and the whole thing is a consensual roleplay between adults. Hygiene matters, since prolonged diaper wear can cause skin irritation and infection, so change often and use barrier cream.

Full glossary entry: ABDL

2. Age-Gap Attraction

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: Attraction between adults with a large age difference, such as a younger partner with an older one, or the reverse. It's a common preference and often has nothing to do with kink.

What is involved: Some couples lean into it with dynamics like the daddy dynamic or mommy dynamic, or the sugar baby dynamic. Others just enjoy the life experience gap.

Know before you try it: Both people must be adults and equal in consent. Be wary of any imbalance of power.

Related glossary entry: Daddy Dynamic

3. Age Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: Age play is consensual roleplay between adults where one or both people act out a different age than their real one. The "age" is a character and a headspace, not a literal claim, and it can run from gentle and cuddly to sexual and strict.

What is involved: The most common versions are a younger-feeling "little" with a nurturing "caregiver" (see CGL, DDLG, and MDLB), or a strict, older-feeling authority figure with a playful partner, again between grown adults. Props, nicknames, bedtime routines, and rules are all part of the toolkit. Some people also practice age regression as a stress-relief or self-care state rather than a sexual one.

Why people like it: For many people it is about comfort and care rather than anything sexual. Slipping out of adult responsibilities for an hour, and being looked after, can be deeply relaxing.

Know before you try it: Adults only, always. Agree on what is on the table, what is not, and how to step out of the roles, and keep it out of any space that involves actual children.

Full glossary entry: Age Play

4. Age Regression

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: Age regression is the experience of mentally slipping into a younger, more carefree state. Unlike age play, which is a performance, regression is often something that just happens, or that someone chooses to do for comfort.

What is involved: A regressing adult might color, watch cartoons, hug a plush toy, or speak in a softer voice. Some do it solo, some with a partner who acts as caregiver. It overlaps with little space, but it is not always erotic at all.

Know before you try it: Because it can be tied to stress and emotional needs, check in often. If regression feels out of control or tied to distress, a kink-aware therapist is a good person to talk to.

Full glossary entry: Age Regression

5. Alpha and Beta Dynamic

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: A popular trope in romance and erotic fiction that sorts characters into dominant "alphas" and gentler "betas" or "omegas." It maps onto dom/sub dynamic but with a more animal, instinctive flavor.

What is involved: Possessive, protective alpha characters dominate stories, while real couples use the language as shorthand for the dynamic they enjoy.

Know before you try it: Be careful with the idea that anyone is naturally an alpha. It is a game, not a hierarchy of people.

Related glossary entry: Dominant/Submissive Dynamic

6. Alternative Aesthetic Fetish (Goth, Punk, Emo)

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to subculture style: black lipstick, fishnets, chains, dyed hair, platform boots, and the sense of a person who does not follow the crowd. Goth is the most popular of these, closely followed by punk, emo, and e-girl looks.

What is involved: Fans enjoy the clothes, the make-up, and the attitude. Many of the fashion pieces overlap with other entries, such as boot fetish, choker fetish, fishnet fetish, and piercing fetish. It is as much about a vibe as a body part.

Know before you try it: A style is not a personality. Treat people as individuals, not as a type.

7. Amazon Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: A fascination with tall, strong, physically powerful women, often with an emphasis on being overpowered, carried, lifted, or dominated by one. It sits at the crossroads of size kink, femdom, and wrestling fetish.

What is involved: Fantasies range from simply admiring height and muscle, to being lifted or pinned in play fights, to full submission to a towering partner. Photos and videos of tall women in athletic or warrior-style outfits are a staple. Height difference, high heels, and strength displays are the main ingredients.

Know before you try it: Lifting and wrestling play is physical activity, so warm up, keep it off hard floors, and agree on a tap-out signal before anyone gets pinned.

8. Anal Play

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Sexual play involving the anus, from external touch and massage through toys and, for some, penetration. It is one of the most common "I'd like to try it" fantasies across all genders.

What is involved: Go slow, use plenty of water-based or silicone-compatible lubricant, and start small. Toys for the area must have a flared base so they cannot slip inside. Partners who want to reverse roles can explore pegging, where a woman uses a strap-on on a partner.

Why people like it: It is a sensitive area with a lot of nerve endings, and many people find it surprisingly pleasurable once they relax. It also feels like a "private" experience that couples share.

Know before you try it: Never switch from anal to vaginal contact without washing or changing protection, since bacteria transfer easily. Pain is a sign to stop, not push through.

Related glossary entry: Pegging

9. Apron Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: A liking for aprons, usually in a domestic or kitchen setting. It often comes bundled with 1950s housewife imagery, maid fetish play, or the appeal of someone who looks put-together and doing something wholesome right before things turn playful.

What is involved: The apron can be the star, as in "wearing only an apron," or one detail in a bigger scene with cooking, cleaning, or serving. Cotton, frilly, vintage, and leather versions all have fans.

Know before you try it: Cooking in a bare-skin apron is a fantasy best kept away from hot oil and open flames.

Full glossary entry: Apron Fetish

10. Armpit Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: An erotic focus on the underarm, including the look, the smell, and the feel of it. Sometimes called maschalagnia, it can be tied to natural scent and to the intimacy of a body part that is usually covered.

What is involved: Enjoyment can mean looking, kissing, licking, or inhaling the scent, with or without shaving depending on taste. Pairing it with body worship is common.

Know before you try it: Hygiene preferences vary hugely. Talk about whether freshly washed or natural is the preference, and stick to what both people like.

Full glossary entry: Armpit Fetish

11. Auralism

Category: Language & Sound

What it is: Being turned on by sound, whether that is a voice, breathing, moaning, the slap of skin, or a whispered instruction. It is the "audio" kink, and it explains why people love erotic audio and ASMR-style voice work.

What is involved: Voice notes, audio stories, dirty talk, and ambient sound during sex are all fair game. Blindfolds or earbuds can boost the effect by removing other senses. If you love being talked to, praise kink and degradation kink often go hand in hand with auralism.

Know before you try it: Keep volume reasonable when using headphones, and check walls and neighbors before turning anything up.

B Kinks

21 entries under B. Back to the index

12. Ballbusting

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Consensual play that involves striking, squeezing, or kicking the testicles. It is most often connected to femdom and is as much about the power dynamic and humiliation as the sensation.

What is involved: Scenes may use hands, knees, or lightly padded footwear, and can range from teasing taps to heavier work between experienced partners. Many people also use it as a chastity or orgasm denial companion.

Know before you try it: The area is delicate. Go lighter than you think, build slowly, and never strike a hard blow without full agreement. Severe pain, swelling, nausea, or bruising needs urgent medical attention.

Full glossary entry: Ballbusting

13. Balloon Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Sexual interest in balloons, known as looners. Some enjoy popping them, some prefer to watch them be inflated, and some like to sit on, rub against, or play with them.

What is involved: There are two main camps, "poppers" and "non-poppers." Visuals, the squeak and snap of latex, and the anticipation all matter. It overlaps with latex fetish and sensory overload play.

Know before you try it: Latex allergies are real. Use non-latex alternatives if you or your partner react to it, and keep balloon fragments away from pets and children.

Full glossary entry: Balloon Fetish

14. BDSM

Category: Power & Control

What it is: The umbrella term for a wide range of practices: Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), and Sadism and Masochism (SM). It covers everything from silk scarves and playful orders to elaborate, rule-based lifestyles.

What is involved: Most people dip into only a few parts of it. Some enjoy bondage and nothing else, while others care mostly about the dom/sub dynamic. The community leans heavily on consent frameworks such as SSC and RACK, on scene negotiation beforehand, and on aftercare afterward. A good first read is the sadomasochism glossary entry.

Why people like it: It gives people a structured, agreed way to explore power, trust, and intense sensation. Many describe it as a release from daily pressure, a deeper kind of intimacy with a partner, or simply a lot of fun. Because everything is negotiated, it can actually feel safer than ordinary sex where nobody has said what they want.

Know before you try it: BDSM is built on consent and communication. It is not abuse, and anyone who uses the label to excuse harm is not practicing BDSM.

Related glossary entry: Sadomasochism

15. Bimbofication

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: A fantasy and aesthetic of becoming the ultra-glam "bimbo": bleached hair, big lashes, pink everything, giggly and carefree, with the brain turned down to cheerful. It is playful, campy, and for many people empowering rather than degrading.

What is involved: Some people use make-up, clothes, and voice to live the persona for a night. Others lean into a hypnosis kink or "mind-melting" fantasy where the character gets simpler and sweeter by the minute. In erotic fiction it is often a transformation story.

Know before you try it: It is dress-up and a role, not a statement on anyone's intelligence. Agree on how and when you both step out of character.

Full glossary entry: Bimbofication

16. Blindfold Play

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Covering the eyes during intimacy so touch, sound, and anticipation take over. It is one of the most accessible kinks and a great first step into sensory deprivation.

What is involved: A soft eye mask or scarf is enough. The person who cannot see has to trust the person who can, and every touch becomes a surprise. It pairs well with sensation play, feather teasing, and temperature play.

Why people like it: Taking away sight sharpens everything else and hands control to the partner who can still see. It is a low-pressure, low-risk way to get a first taste of power exchange.

Know before you try it: Agree beforehand on a stop signal that works without sight, such as a safeword or a squeeze of the hand.

Full glossary entry: Blindfold Play

17. Blood Play

Category: Edge Play

What it is: Sexual or ritual interest in blood, from a drop to the more extreme end of cutting. It often links to vampire fantasy, knife play, and needle play.

What is involved: It is edge play, which means it carries real medical risk. Most people who enjoy it do so in tiny, controlled amounts, with sterile single-use equipment, gloves, and proper clean-up. Pure fantasy and roleplay without breaking skin is a common compromise.

Know before you try it: Blood carries infection risk, including hepatitis and HIV. Never share equipment, always use new sterile tools, and get hands-on training from an experienced practitioner before trying anything that breaks skin.

18. Bodypaint Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Arousal from having a body painted, or from painting someone else. The body becomes a canvas, and the cool, slick feel of paint adds sensation.

What is involved: Shared sessions with brushes or fingers, paint-only outfits, and "body-as-art" photography are all common. It sits close to body writing, where the words matter more than the color.

Know before you try it: Only use paint made for skin, never craft or house paint. Cover furniture, avoid sensitive areas, and have a way to wash it off thoroughly afterward.

Full glossary entry: Bodypaint Fetish

19. Bodystocking Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to the full-body stocking, a sheer or fishnet suit that covers most of the body. Its appeal is the near-visible skin, the stretch, and the framing of curves.

What is involved: People enjoy wearing them, seeing a partner in them, or both. They are often paired with heels, gloves, or lingerie. They share a lot of DNA with fishnet fetish and bodysuit fetish.

Know before you try it: Sheer fabrics snag easily. Keep nails and jewelry in mind when dressing or being undressed.

Full glossary entry: Bodystocking Fetish

20. Bodysuit Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: A fascination with one-piece garments that hug the body, in lace, latex, spandex, or cotton. The seamless line and the sense of being contained are the main draws.

What is involved: Wearing, watching, and slowly peeling one off are all popular. It overlaps with latex fetish, zentai, and general lingerie fetish.

Know before you try it: Check fit and stretch, as very tight pieces can restrict breathing or circulation if you overdo it.

Full glossary entry: Bodysuit Fetish

21. Body Worship

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Devoted, slow attention to a partner's body, often with the "worshipper" kneeling and the "worshipped" receiving. It can be gentle and loving or sit inside a dominant and submissive frame.

What is involved: Kissing, massage, adoring words, and sometimes ritual: a bath beforehand, candles, a fixed order of touch. It is a cousin of foot worship and service submission.

Know before you try it: The receiver should be fully comfortable in being admired. Make it clear that they can say stop or redirect whenever they like.

Full glossary entry: Body Worship

22. Body Writing

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: Writing words on skin, in lipstick, marker, or body-safe paint, as part of a scene. The words are often labels, insults, or devotional phrases that give the scene meaning.

What is involved: Common choices are "property of" tags, ranking marks, or compliments. It overlaps with degradation kink, objectification play, and bodypaint fetish. Photos afterward are part of the fun for some couples.

Know before you try it: Use skin-safe, washable markers only, and test a small patch first for irritation.

Full glossary entry: Body Writing

23. Bondage

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: Restricting movement with rope, cuffs, tape, or other restraints, for pleasure. It is the poster child of kink, and the doorway for many people into wider BDSM.

What is involved: The "tied" person usually feels helpless, safe, and heightened, while the "tying" person controls pace and touch. Styles include simple wrist cuffs, full rope harnesses (rope bondage, shibari), and complicated positions like predicament bondage. Start with soft cuffs or a silk scarf and keep safety scissors nearby.

Why people like it: Being tied up removes the need to make decisions or perform. For the person in rope, that can feel like a rare chance to relax completely. For the person doing the tying, it is a chance to take care of someone and to be in control of the pace.

Know before you try it: Never leave a bound person alone. Check hands and feet for color, numbness, and tingling, and avoid anything around the neck.

Full glossary entry: Bondage

24. Boot Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: A thing for boots, particularly tall leather or patent ones. The shine, the sound, and the stance they create are central.

What is involved: Wearing, polishing, being stepped on by, or simply watching boots are all part of the world. It pairs naturally with leather fetish, femdom, and foot worship.

Know before you try it: If boots are going near skin, keep them clean and agree on how much pressure is fun.

Full glossary entry: Boot Fetish

25. Boss and Employee Roleplay

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A workplace power fantasy between adults: the demanding boss and the nervous subordinate, a late meeting, a desk, and a growing tension. It is one of the most popular roleplay setups because it is easy to stage and easy to understand.

What is involved: Suits, ties, pencil skirts, and glasses set the mood. Dialogue is about deadlines, rules, and "consequences." See boss/employee roleplay and the related secretary fetish fantasy.

Know before you try it: It is fantasy only. Keep it far away from real workplaces, and be clear that real-life power imbalances at work are never a basis for consent.

Related glossary entry: Boss/Employee Roleplay

26. Bra Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to bras: the fabric, the cup shape, the straps, the clasp. For some it is the garment itself; for others it is the way it presents the body.

What is involved: Wearing, receiving, or removing bras can be the whole point. Color and style (lace, satin, sports) all matter. Learn more about the wider lingerie fetish world.

Know before you try it: A bra that fits properly feels better and looks better. Fit matters.

Full glossary entry: Bra Fetish

27. Brat

Category: Power & Control

What it is: A submissive who plays at being defiant on purpose, in the hope of being put in their place. Back-talk, teasing, and rule-breaking are the toolkit, and the payoff is a firm, fun response from a dominant.

What is involved: The dominant, called a brat tamer, answers with discipline, rules, or playful punishment such as spanking or orgasm denial. Both partners must agree on where the line is between cheeky and actually upset.

Why people like it: The fun is in the push and pull. Brats enjoy testing limits in a safe way, and tamers enjoy showing they can handle it.

Know before you try it: A brat is not an unhappy or disrespectful person. It is a game, and everyone should be clear on when to stop and on how to tell playful from real.

Full glossary entry: Brat

28. Brat Tamer

Category: Power & Control

What it is: The dominant partner who enjoys the challenge of a brat. They revel in the cheek and know how to respond with steady, unbothered authority.

What is involved: Patience, creativity, and a sense of humor. A good tamer sets clear rules and consequences ahead of time, then plays them out with confidence.

Know before you try it: Calmness matters more than volume. Do not respond to a game with real anger.

Full glossary entry: Brat Tamer

29. Breath Play

Category: Edge Play

What it is: Restricting airflow for intensity, from a hand over the mouth to hands around the neck. It is among the riskiest practices in kink.

What is involved: People are drawn to the rush of lightheadedness and the extreme trust it requires. There is no guaranteed safe version of choking or strangling, and serious injury or death can occur quickly, sometimes without warning. Many kink educators recommend replacing it with safer ideas such as a firm hand on the chest, a collar, or verbal commands.

Why people like it: People describe a dizzy, floaty rush and an almost unmatched sense of surrender. That intensity is exactly why it is so dangerous, and why many educators point people toward safer ways to get a similar feeling.

Know before you try it: Please read the full glossary entry on breath play before considering it. Never use ropes, belts, or bags, never do it alone, and stop at the first sign of trouble.

Full glossary entry: Breath Play

30. Breeding Kink

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: Arousal from the idea of impregnation, being impregnated, or the language around it, whether or not pregnancy is actually possible or wanted. It is often a fantasy and a vocabulary, not an actual plan.

What is involved: Dirty talk about "filling," "claiming," or "making a baby" is central. Some couples roleplay it; for others it is the idea of being wanted that deeply. Explore the term at breeding kink.

Why people like it: The language of claiming and being claimed is powerful. The fantasy is rarely about babies and almost always about being wanted completely.

Know before you try it: Use real contraception unless you are actually trying for a baby. Fantasy and reality should be kept firmly separate.

Full glossary entry: Breeding Kink

31. Bunny Ears Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to the bunny ears headband, as part of the iconic bunny costume or on its own. It has a lot to do with the playful, teasing, "look but don't touch" energy of the outfit.

What is involved: The ears can be a single accessory, part of a Playboy-style outfit, or the first step of bunny play. It overlaps with cosplay fetish.

Know before you try it: Costume pieces are meant to be fun. Check comfort and fit, especially if worn for long periods.

Full glossary entry: Bunny Ears Fetish

32. Bunny Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A playful form of pet play where one person acts as a bunny: soft, shy, fast-moving, and often a little bit wicked. It leans towards cute and cuddly rather than rough.

What is involved: Ears, a cotton tail, hopping, nuzzling, and "carrot" treats. Some people tie it into bunny ears fetish and bunny-girl costumes. It is a gentler cousin of pet play, puppy play, and kitten play.

Know before you try it: Check any tail accessories are body-safe and have a flared base.

Full glossary entry: Bunny Play

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33. Candaulism

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: Getting turned on by showing off your partner, or by sharing images or the sight of them with others. The name comes from the ancient story of King Candaules, who was said to display his wife's beauty to a friend.

What is involved: It can be as mild as pride in a partner who turns heads, or as active as sharing photos, or having a partner flirt or undress in front of a trusted audience. It overlaps with exhibitionism, voyeurism, and hotwifing.

Know before you try it: Consent from the person being shown off is the whole game. Agree on what gets shared, with whom, and what happens to any images afterward.

Full glossary entry: Candaulism

34. Cane Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Using a thin rattan cane for impact, producing a sharp, stinging sensation that is very different from a thuddy paddle or a wide flogger.

What is involved: Caning leaves distinct lines and can be a stronger hit than most beginners expect, so it is usually an experienced-players tool. It is often used in discipline scenes and strict-authority roleplay between adults. See the wider impact play guide.

Know before you try it: Aim only for the fleshy backside and upper thighs, never the spine, hips, or kidneys. Start extremely light and increase slowly. Marks can last days.

Full glossary entry: Cane Play

35. Captive Roleplay

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A scenario in which one person is "captured" or held by another, such as a hostage, prisoner, or kidnapped character. It is a staged fantasy, not an actual abduction.

What is involved: Rope, handcuffs, blindfolds, and a story do most of the work. People often combine it with interrogation roleplay, bondage, and consensual non-consent. Everything is pre-negotiated, including a way to end the scene.

Know before you try it: A safeword is non-negotiable, as the fantasy often involves saying "no." Agree beforehand that real distress overrides the script.

Full glossary entry: Captive Roleplay

36. Caregiver and Little (CGL)

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A nurturing dynamic between adults where one is the "caregiver" and the other the "little." It can be completely non-sexual, centered on comfort, routine, and care, or it can be part of an erotic relationship.

What is involved: Caregivers might handle bedtimes, meals, rules, and gentle discipline. Littles might color, cuddle plush toys, or ask permission for things. See the pages on caregiver, little space, and the more specific DDLG and MDLB variants.

Why people like it: It blends nurturing and play into a relationship rhythm. Both partners often feel more connected because the dynamic is built around looking after one another.

Know before you try it: This is an arrangement between adults. Check in regularly about what each of you needs, since emotional needs can run deeper than the play.

Related glossary entry: CGL

37. Chastity Play

Category: Power & Control

What it is: One partner is locked or otherwise restricted from sexual release or touch, with the other holding control. The classic version uses a physical cage, but a rule, a promise, or a belt can serve the same purpose.

What is involved: The holder might keep the key, set the time, and decide when, or whether, release happens. It pairs with orgasm denial, edging, and orgasm control. Teasing messages while locked up are a big part of the fun.

Why people like it: The lock is a constant reminder of a partner's control. That thread of connection between scenes is what many people love most.

Know before you try it: Check skin and circulation every day, keep devices clean, and never rely on a lock without a plan for emergency removal. Long periods require breaks.

Full glossary entry: Chastity Play

38. Choker Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to close-fitting necklaces worn at the throat. A choker can be a symbol of ownership, a pretty accessory, or a quiet precursor to a collar.

What is involved: Velvet, leather, chain, and lace chokers all have fans. They carry a lot of symbolism for submission and belonging, and are easy to wear in public without raising an eyebrow.

Know before you try it: A choker should never be tight enough to restrict breathing. If it is pulled on, treat that as breath play and take the safety advice seriously.

Full glossary entry: Choker Fetish

39. Clothespin and Clamp Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Using clothespins, clamps, or similar devices on skin, usually the nipples, to create a pinching sensation that builds over time. See the broader nipple play guide.

What is involved: Clamps are often attached with a chain, weighted, or tugged. The real kick for many people comes when the clamp is removed, as blood rushes back in and the sensation spikes.

Know before you try it: Limit wear time to around 15 minutes at first, and never use anything that cannot be removed quickly. Numbness, color change, or sharp pain means take them off.

Related glossary entry: Nipple Play

40. Cock and Ball Torture (CBT)

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Sensation play focused on the male genitals, ranging from gentle pulling and binding to light slaps and clamps. It is related to ballbusting but often slower and more ritual.

What is involved: Rope, rings, clips, or elastic bands may be used, usually combined with chastity or a dominant partner giving instructions.

Know before you try it: Do not constrict blood flow for long. Pain that does not fade, discoloration, or swelling means stop and seek medical help.

Related glossary entry: Ballbusting

41. Collar Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Fascination with collars, a symbol that can mean commitment, ownership, or submission. Some people wear one as a daily token; others only in scenes.

What is involved: Styles range from simple leather bands to decorative day collars disguised as jewelry. A formal collaring ceremony is the dominant partner's way of saying "mine," and it carries real emotional weight. Many couples pair it with a lead for collar and leash play or enjoy a collared dynamic all year round.

Know before you try it: Treat collars with the respect they carry. Never put one on someone without their clear, enthusiastic say-so.

Full glossary entry: Collar Fetish

42. Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A negotiated agreement in which one person gives advance permission for things that will later look like resistance, so the scene feels like force while staying fully consensual. The "no" within the scene is part of the script.

What is involved: CNC is one of the most intense forms of roleplay, and the preparation matters more than the scene itself: detailed lists of what is allowed, what is not, and what the safeword is. Many people find it helps them explore fantasies of being overwhelmed or taken in a way that feels safe. See consensual non-consent and consent culture.

Why people like it: It allows people to explore powerful fantasies, including being overpowered, without real danger. Some say the careful negotiation involved makes them feel more secure than ordinary sex ever did.

Know before you try it: Only try CNC with someone you deeply trust and have spoken to at length. A safeword that overrides everything is essential, as is time for aftercare. Not a good fit for a first date or for anyone with unprocessed trauma.

Full glossary entry: Consensual Non-Consent

43. Corset Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to corsets and tight lacing, drawn by the shape, the structure, and the sense of being held in. Some enjoy the historic look, others the rigid, restrictive feel.

What is involved: Corsets can be worn as outerwear, under clothes, or as part of a lingerie set. The slow process of lacing up or being laced is a ritual in itself. Overlaps with bondage for those who like restriction.

Know before you try it: Do not lace so tightly that you cannot breathe or move. A good corset supports; it should not squeeze.

Full glossary entry: Corset Fetish

44. Cosplay Fetish

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: Arousal from costumes and character dress-up, whether it is a superhero, an anime character, a fantasy warrior, or a classic like a nurse or pirate. The costume is the doorway to the fantasy.

What is involved: Some people want to dress as the character; others want a partner to. Photoshoots, conventions, and private roleplay all count. Take a look at the page on cosplay fetish for more.

Know before you try it: Be respectful of convention rules and public spaces. Private play is private.

Full glossary entry: Cosplay Fetish

45. Cross-Dressing

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: Wearing clothes traditionally associated with a different gender, sometimes for pleasure or erotic excitement, sometimes for comfort or identity reasons. It is not always sexual, and not always the same thing as being trans.

What is involved: Lingerie, make-up, and wigs are common. For some it connects to sissy kink and feminization play; for others it is simply how they feel most like themselves.

Know before you try it: Be thoughtful about assuming someone's motive. Ask, and take their answer at face value.

Related glossary entry: Sissy Kink

46. Cuckolding

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: A scenario where one partner is aroused by the other having sex with someone else, often with a mix of humiliation, jealousy, and devotion. The partner watching or hearing about it is the "cuckold."

What is involved: Variations include being present, watching, hearing about it after, or never knowing the details. Hotwifing is the version where the wife's enjoyment is celebrated rather than the husband's humiliation, and compersion is the joy someone feels at their partner's pleasure. Learn more at cuckolding.

Why people like it: The mix of jealousy, vulnerability, and arousal is intense. Some people say that being fully honest about desire, and trusting a partner with it, strengthens the relationship.

Know before you try it: This is a consensual arrangement with ground rules, safer-sex agreements, and constant communication. It is not the same as cheating, which involves lying.

Full glossary entry: Cuckolding

47. Cuckqueaning

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: The reverse of cuckolding: a woman who is aroused by her partner being intimate with someone else. The same mix of jealousy, compersion, and excitement applies.

What is involved: Ground rules are the same as for any consensual non-monogamy, and the story usually includes lots of reassurance. Some women prefer to watch; others prefer to hear the story afterward.

Know before you try it: Jealousy can be a real emotion. Be ready to pause the game if it stops feeling good.

Related glossary entry: Cuckolding

48. Curvy Admiration

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to fuller figures, from soft and curvy to BBW (big beautiful woman) and SSBBW. Fans love softness, size, and the way a body fills out clothing.

What is involved: Appreciation takes many forms, including body worship, photography, and sensual massage. It can overlap with feederism for some, but it is a much broader preference.

Know before you try it: Be respectful. Admiration is welcome; fetishizing someone without caring who they are is not.

Related glossary entry: Body Worship

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49. Dacryphilia

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Being turned on by tears. This might be crying from emotion, laughter, or from intense sensation, and some find the vulnerability of a tear-stained face deeply arousing.

What is involved: It overlaps with sensation play, humiliation play, and emotional intensity in scenes. Some people enjoy bringing a partner to tears through a story; others prefer the aftermath of cathartic crying.

Know before you try it: Tears can be genuine distress. Check in often, and give plenty of aftercare.

50. Daddy Dynamic

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A relationship where one adult takes on a protective, authoritative "Daddy" role, often towards a partner called "baby girl," "good boy," or similar. It is about guidance, praise, and rules between adults, not about literal age.

What is involved: Daddy dynamics might be a bedroom-only game or a 24/7 relationship. Common elements include praise, rules, curfews, and playful discipline. See DDLG for the "little" version and daddy dynamic for the dominant role.

Why people like it: A "Daddy" is a protective, steady, guiding figure. The appeal is usually the mix of safety and authority, not an actual family role.

Know before you try it: Both people are adults, and the roleplay should be negotiated openly. Not everyone who likes the pet name wants the full dynamic.

Full glossary entry: Daddy Dynamic

51. DDLG

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: Daddy Dom / Little Girl, a dynamic where a dominant "Daddy" cares for and controls a playful "little girl." It is the best-known type of age play.

What is involved: Pastel colors, stuffed toys, bedtime stories, and clear rules are common props. The sexual element is optional and varies from couple to couple. It can run as a game, or as a whole way of relating. See also CGL for the gender-neutral version.

Why people like it: The dynamic offers structure, affection, and rules in a gentle form. Many couples say it helps them feel safe, cared for, and playful.

Know before you try it: Adults only, and clear communication throughout. Always keep it away from any real children or spaces they use.

Full glossary entry: DDLG

52. Degradation Kink

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Arousal from being demeaned, insulted, or treated as less than, within a safe agreement. It is closely linked to humiliation play but focuses more on how you are spoken to and treated than on being embarrassed.

What is involved: Name-calling, being told to do degrading things, or being "used." The partner dishing it out needs to know which words are welcome and which are never okay. The opposite side of this coin is praise kink.

Why people like it: For many, the appeal is the contrast between how they are treated in a scene and how they are valued in real life. Hearing harsh words from someone who clearly cares can feel strangely safe and freeing.

Know before you try it: Agree on a "never say" list first. What feels hot in one scene can cut deep in another. Aftercare often matters most here.

Full glossary entry: Degradation Kink

53. Dirty Talk

Category: Language & Sound

What it is: Saying (or hearing) suggestive or explicit things during intimacy. It ranges from soft whispers to raunchy commands, and is one of the easiest ways to bring a new level of heat to a relationship.

What is involved: Start with describing what you are doing or want to do. Then add praise, instructions, or fantasy. If it feels silly, you are probably doing it right. Pair with auralism to understand why some people find voice so powerful.

Why people like it: Words can build tension faster than touch. For many people, hearing a partner say what they want is more arousing than anything physical.

Know before you try it: Agree on words that are off the table, especially past partners, body-shaming, and anything that reminds them of something painful.

54. Doctor and Patient Roleplay

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A fantasy in which one person plays a medical professional and the other a patient, with exams, treatments, and bedside manner turned playful. It is a staple of medical play and uniform fetish.

What is involved: Stethoscopes, gloves, lab coats, and a clinical tone make the scene. Some couples keep it entirely roleplay; others add real props such as speculums, which require serious care. See doctor/patient roleplay.

Know before you try it: Never use real medical equipment unless trained in its use, and never use sterilized items for anything other than their intended purpose.

Related glossary entry: Doctor Patient Roleplay

55. Dollification

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: A fantasy in which a person is turned into a doll: posed, dressed, made up, and treated as an object that does not speak or act on its own. It is a kind of objectification play with a glamorous, plastic edge.

What is involved: Wigs, heavy make-up, latex or satin outfits, stillness, and being moved around by a "doll maker." Some people go further with masks or full-body suits. Stillness can be tiring, so plan for breaks.

Know before you try it: Agree on a nonverbal signal because "doll" players often do not speak. Hydration and rest matter.

Related glossary entry: Objectification Play

56. Domestic Discipline

Category: Power & Control

What it is: A relationship style where one partner sets household rules and enforces them with agreed consequences, often corporal punishment or chores. It is a form of dom/sub dynamic woven into daily life.

What is involved: Rules, written agreements, and sometimes a "punishment" after rule-breaking. Many couples have a clear chart, a signal word, and a debrief. It is very different from abuse because everything is agreed in advance and either person can stop it.

Know before you try it: Be wary of anyone who says you "must" follow a dynamic. A healthy version is chosen, discussed regularly, and always revocable.

57. Dom/Sub Dynamic

Category: Power & Control

What it is: The central structure of BDSM power exchange. One person (the dominant, or "dom") takes the lead, while the other (the submissive, or "sub") follows. Both agree to the arrangement, and the submissive holds the real power through consent.

What is involved: Dynamics range from a single scene to full-time lifestyle arrangements. Elements include rules, rituals, protocol, and agreed hard and soft limits. Read dom/sub dynamic for the full guide, and total power exchange for the extreme end. A switch enjoys both roles.

Why people like it: Dominants often enjoy the focus, the responsibility, and the confidence that comes from leading. Submissives often enjoy the freedom of handing over control and the safety of being guided. Both usually say that the trust involved brings them closer.

Know before you try it: Submission is a gift, not a weakness. Dominance is a responsibility, not a license.

Full glossary entry: Dom/Sub Dynamic

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58. Edge Play

Category: Edge Play

What it is: Practices that carry higher physical or emotional risk than average kink, such as breath play, knife play, or blood play. The word "edge" means the line where things can go badly wrong.

What is involved: The kink community leans on frameworks like RACK, risk-aware consensual kink, over the older SSC (safe, sane, consensual) for exactly this reason, because it acknowledges that some risks cannot be removed, only understood.

Know before you try it: Edge play requires skill, training, a trusted partner, and an emergency plan. If any of those are missing, wait.

59. Edging

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Bringing someone close to orgasm and then stopping, again and again, before allowing release. Done well, it builds sensitivity and intensity beyond what most people feel in a normal climax.

What is involved: Solo or partnered, it can be used as a teasing game, as part of orgasm control, or as a form of orgasm denial. Communication is key: the person being edged signals when they are close. Read our guide, What Is Edging?.

Why people like it: Many people report that repeated build-ups produce a stronger, longer climax. Others simply enjoy the extended time in a heightened state.

Know before you try it: Too much edging with no payoff can leave some people uncomfortable. Plan for release at the end.

Full glossary entry: Edging

60. Electro Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Using low-level electrical stimulation on the body for tingling, buzzing, or sharper sensations. Tools range from violet wands to purpose-built e-stim units.

What is involved: The sensation can feel like pins and needles, a tickle, or a snap. Many practitioners treat it as a distinct skill because the equipment varies so much. Pairs with sensation play and bondage.

Know before you try it: Only use equipment designed for erotic use. Never run current across the chest or head, never use anything plugged into mains power, and keep it away from water. Anyone with a heart condition or pacemaker should avoid it.

Full glossary entry: Electro Play

61. Enemies to Lovers

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: A romance and erotica trope in which two characters begin as rivals or adversaries and slowly (or suddenly) become lovers. The tension is built on friction, banter, and unresolved attraction.

What is involved: In real play, couples recreate the tension through bickering, competition, and a scene in which the rivalry breaks into passion. It overlaps with brat and brat tamer energy.

Know before you try it: Keep the quarrel playful. Real arguments are not foreplay.

62. Ethical Non-Monogamy

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: An umbrella term for relationships that involve more than two people and where everyone is informed and agrees. It includes polyamory, open relationships, and swinging.

What is involved: Honest talk, defined agreements, and regular check-ins. See ethical non-monogamy and relationship anarchy.

Know before you try it: The word "ethical" is doing real work. Without honesty, it's just cheating.

Full glossary entry: Ethical Non-Monogamy

63. Exhibitionism

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: Arousal from being seen, whether by a partner, an audience, or through photos and videos. The thrill is the gaze. Read more in our article, Exhibitionism Explained.

What is involved: Examples include dressing provocatively, posing for cameras, or intimate play with a partner watching. It is the mirror of voyeurism. See exhibitionism.

Why people like it: Being watched can feel validating, daring, and thrilling. For some, it is about being appreciated; for others, it is about the risk and the adrenaline.

Know before you try it: Consent applies to the audience, too. Exposing yourself to people who did not choose to see is a crime.

Full glossary entry: Exhibitionism

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64. Facesitting

Category: Power & Control

What it is: One person sits on, or hovers over, another person's face. It is a mixture of intimacy, oral pleasure, dominance, and sometimes light suffocation play.

What is involved: Positions range from a gentle straddle to a "smother." Often described as queening when a woman is the one on top. See facesitting and femdom.

Know before you try it: Never block both nose and mouth, as it quickly turns into breath play. Agree on a tap-out signal and honor it instantly.

Full glossary entry: Facesitting

65. Face Slapping

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Light to moderate slaps across the cheek, delivered within an agreed scene. It is more about the shock, the symbolism, and the power than about pain.

What is involved: Usually open-handed, aimed at the fleshy cheek and well away from the nose, ears, and eyes. Often used in degradation kink and femdom scenes, and always discussed beforehand. See face slapping.

Know before you try it: Face and head injuries are a real risk. Keep it light, never aim near the ear, and avoid it entirely if either of you has had head or jaw trouble.

Full glossary entry: Face Slapping

66. Fart Fetish

Category: Food, Mess & Fluids

What it is: Arousal from flatulence, in sound, smell, or the humiliation and intimacy of it. It is often linked to humiliation play and facesitting.

What is involved: Fans might enjoy hearing it, being near it, or having a partner do it on purpose in a scene. Many fans of this fetish value humor as much as heat. Read the fart fetish entry.

Know before you try it: Diet changes to produce it are fine, but anything that causes discomfort or pain is a bad idea.

Full glossary entry: Fart Fetish

67. Feather Teasing

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Light, tickly touch with feathers, which can build anticipation and heightened sensitivity. It is a classic of sensation play.

What is involved: A blindfolded partner and a soft feather create delicious uncertainty. It pairs with tickling and edging. See feather fetish.

Know before you try it: Some people find tickle unbearable. Choose a safeword that is not "stop" if laughter is likely.

Related glossary entry: Feather Fetish

68. Feederism

Category: Food, Mess & Fluids

What it is: A fetish centered on feeding and weight gain, either as the "feeder" providing the food or the "feedee" being fed. Some focus on the erotic act of feeding, others on the changing body.

What is involved: It ranges from fun, sensual feeding games to dedicated weight gain goals between consenting adults. It overlaps with sploshing and body worship. See feederism.

Know before you try it: Significant weight gain has health consequences. Agree on health checks, set limits, and never pressure anyone to eat more than they want.

Full glossary entry: Feederism

69. Female-Led Relationship (FLR)

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: A relationship in which the woman has the final say on key decisions, either in the bedroom or in everyday life. It is the female-led counterpart of a male-led relationship.

What is involved: Some couples keep it playful; others put it in writing, with rules, tasks, and rewards. It overlaps with femdom but isn't always sexual. Read female-led relationship for more.

Know before you try it: A healthy FLR is chosen and enjoyed by both. If one person stops enjoying it, it should end or change.

Full glossary entry: Female-Led Relationship

70. Femdom

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Short for female domination, where a woman holds the dominant role, usually over a male submissive but also over women and non-binary partners. It can be erotic, emotional, or a full lifestyle.

What is involved: Common elements include orders, orgasm control, humiliation, worship, and chastity. Professionals called dominatrices also run femdom sessions. Look at the femdom glossary page.

Why people like it: Some submissives enjoy being led by a confident woman. Some women enjoy the freedom to be openly powerful and demanding, which they rarely get elsewhere in life.

Know before you try it: Just as with any dynamic, the submissive holds the real power through limits and safewords.

Full glossary entry: Femdom

71. Figging

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Inserting a peeled piece of ginger root into the anus for a warming, stinging sensation. It has a long history as a form of discipline and is now a niche kink.

What is involved: The sting builds and fades over several minutes. It is typically combined with spanking or chastity. Learn more at figging.

Know before you try it: Only use food-grade ginger, shaped with a flared base so it can be removed, and never leave it in for long. Stop if the burn gets too intense.

Full glossary entry: Figging

72. Financial Domination

Category: Power & Control

What it is: A power dynamic in which the submissive pays, gifts, or relinquishes control of money to a dominant. The financial aspect is the erotic part.

What is involved: Forms include one-time "tributes," ongoing allowances, or being denied access to savings. It is common online, and is also a sensitive area, since real money is involved. See financial domination.

Why people like it: The thrill is the surrender of something real and the symbolism of devotion. For some it becomes a way to feel the power exchange in everyday life.

Know before you try it: Set a hard budget before you start. Real financial harm is never part of the fun.

Full glossary entry: Financial Domination

73. Fire Play

Category: Edge Play

What it is: Playing with flames on or near the skin, using techniques like flash fire, burning alcohol on a protected surface, or heated objects. It is among the more dangerous activities in the scene.

What is involved: Practitioners prepare with fire blankets, extinguishers, and a spotter. Most use specific fuels and strictly controlled settings. Many people just enjoy the flicker and heat of candles and leave it at wax play.

Know before you try it: Only learn this from an experienced teacher. Avoid hair, synthetic fabrics, and alcohol-based skin products.

74. Fishnet Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to fishnet stockings, tights, and tops. The grid pattern draws attention to the body underneath while also covering it.

What is involved: Fans like the look, the feel, and the way fishnet marks the skin. It is closely tied to stocking fetish and bodystocking fetish. See the fishnet fetish guide.

Know before you try it: Fishnets run easily. Always pack a spare.

Full glossary entry: Fishnet Fetish

75. Flogger Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Striking with a flogger, a handle with many soft or stiff tails. Depending on the material, it can feel thuddy and warm, or stingy and sharp.

What is involved: Suede and deer-skin floggers are gentle and good for beginners; heavier leather or rubber floggers hit harder. Used in impact play to warm up before heavier tools. See flogger play.

Know before you try it: Aim for the shoulders, back, and rear. Avoid the neck, spine, and kidneys.

Full glossary entry: Flogger Play

76. Food Play

Category: Food, Mess & Fluids

What it is: Using food in sensual or sexual play, such as chocolate sauce, whipped cream, or fruit eaten off skin. It sits near sploshing but is generally cleaner and more romantic.

What is involved: Warm, not hot, sauces, and foods that are easy to wipe up. Cream, honey, and strawberries are standards.

Know before you try it: Keep sugar away from sensitive areas (it can cause infections), and check for allergies before any food goes near skin.

Related glossary entry: Sploshing (WAM)

77. Foot Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Arousal from feet, including their look, smell, and touch. It is one of the most common fetishes in the world and is sometimes referred to as podophilia.

What is involved: Fans might enjoy massage, kissing, toe-sucking, being stepped on, or just looking. It overlaps with heel fetish, sock fetish, and foot worship. Read our full guide to Foot Fetish 101 or the foot fetish glossary entry.

Why people like it: Feet are sensitive, usually covered, and tied to both intimacy and vulnerability. Researchers have suggested the brain area linked to feet sits next to the area linked to genitals, though the science is far from settled.

Know before you try it: Hygiene matters. Fresh, clean feet are the standard for most people.

Full glossary entry: Foot Fetish

78. Foot Worship

Category: Power & Control

What it is: A ritual of devotion directed at the feet. The worshipper kisses, massages, cleans, or otherwise serves their partner's feet as an act of submission.

What is involved: Often found in femdom and body worship play. Positioning is important: one partner kneels or lies, the other sits above. See foot worship.

Know before you try it: Agree on how far the activity goes, and make sure both partners are comfortable.

Full glossary entry: Foot Worship

79. Forbidden Romance

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: A trope in which two people are drawn together despite rules, jobs, or loyalties that say they should not be. The risk makes everything hotter.

What is involved: Secret meetings, stolen glances, and a "we shouldn't" refrain. Many roleplays, including boss and employee and infidelity fantasy, lean on this.

Know before you try it: Fantasy only. Real forbidden relationships can hurt people.

80. Forced Feminization

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A fantasy in which a person is "made" to dress and act in a feminine way. In the real world it is entirely consensual and scripted, with the "force" being part of the story.

What is involved: The dominant sets the outfit, make-up, and behavior. Often used in sissy kink and humiliation play. Some people love the transformation; others find it a source of shame to enjoy.

Know before you try it: Check in often on what is playful and what stings. Be especially careful with words about identity.

Related glossary entry: Sissy Kink

81. Free Use

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: An arrangement in which one partner gives standing permission to the other to initiate sex or play whenever they like, within agreed limits. It is a lasting agreement more than a one-off scene.

What is involved: Rules about when and where, how to say not now, and what is off the table are agreed in advance. Often tied to objectification and dom/sub dynamics. Learn more about free use.

Why people like it: Constant availability, agreed in advance, can feel hot and also surprisingly relaxing. Some people like never having to ask, others like never having to say no.

Know before you try it: "Free use" does not mean consent is gone. It means consent is agreed ahead of time and can be withdrawn at any moment.

Full glossary entry: Free Use

82. Fur Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to fur, whether real or faux: the softness, the sense of luxury, and the way it feels on skin. It is distinct from furry fandom.

What is involved: People enjoy wearing, touching, or being surrounded by fur coats, blankets, or accessories. Many now choose faux fur for ethical reasons. See fur fetish.

Know before you try it: Check for allergies and for hair that sheds onto skin.

Full glossary entry: Fur Fetish

83. Furries (Anthropomorphic Fandom)

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: The furry fandom is a community of people interested in animal characters with human traits. For some, there is an erotic side, sometimes called "yiffing," while many enjoy it purely as art, costume, or social community.

What is involved: Fursuits, art commissions, conventions, and roleplay. The sexual end of the fandom is a minority, and many furries are annoyed when it is the first thing people ask about. It touches on pet play and cosplay.

Know before you try it: Respect the community's boundaries. Most furries are there for friendship and creativity.

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84. Gag Play

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: Restricting speech with a gag, such as a ball gag, ring gag, cloth, or tape. It combines helplessness with the visual of someone who cannot speak.

What is involved: Gags are often used with bondage to heighten the feeling of being controlled. See gag play.

Know before you try it: Never use a gag without a non-verbal signal such as a dropped object or hand squeeze. Avoid anything that blocks breathing, and take it out immediately if there is any choking or vomiting.

Full glossary entry: Gag Play

85. Garter Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to garters and garter belts, the delicate straps that hold up stockings. They add structure and a hint of old-school glamor.

What is involved: Typically combined with stockings and lingerie. The act of clipping or unclipping a garter is a mini-ritual for many fans. See garter fetish.

Know before you try it: Keep clasps well maintained, so they do not pinch.

Full glossary entry: Garter Fetish

86. Gender Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: Experimenting with gender expression for fun, eroticism, or exploration. It can include switching clothes, names, pronouns, or roles within a scene.

What is involved: It might be as simple as wearing a partner's clothes or as detailed as a full persona. It overlaps with sissy kink and cross-dressing.

Know before you try it: For some people this is a game; for others it is part of who they are. Listen carefully to how your partner describes it.

Related glossary entry: Sissy Kink

87. Giantess Fetish

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A fantasy about huge women who tower over tiny men. It might include being crushed, carried, or held, or simply admiring the scale.

What is involved: Fans enjoy illustrations, edited photos, and stories. Real-life versions include a partner standing over you in heels. See giantess fetish and size kink.

Know before you try it: Most giantess play is fantasy. Pay attention to safety in real scenes involving trampling.

Full glossary entry: Giantess Fetish

88. Girlfriend Experience (GFE)

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A style of intimacy that mimics a real romantic relationship: affection, conversation, check-ins, and a sense of being cared for. Online, this often means chatting with a creator who acts as a girlfriend would.

What is involved: Good morning messages, personal conversations, shared jokes, and flirty or explicit chats. See girlfriend experience and creator girlfriend experience. It is part of why many people enjoy chatting with creators on fan platforms, and you can meet ours in the creators directory.

Know before you try it: A paid experience can feel real, but it is a service. Keep your expectations realistic and spend within your means.

Full glossary entry: Girlfriend Experience

89. Glory Holes

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: A hole in a wall or partition through which anonymous sex acts take place. The appeal is the anonymity, the surprise, and the sense of being used.

What is involved: Today they are found in some adult venues and clubs, or recreated at home as a game with a cardboard partition. Related to voyeurism and objectification.

Know before you try it: In public venues, safer sex practices are essential. At home, the same consent and boundaries apply as always.

Related glossary entry: Voyeurism

90. Glove Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to gloves, particularly leather, latex, satin, or opera-length ones. The appeal is the touch of covered hands and the sense of formality.

What is involved: Wearing, receiving touch from, or watching someone remove a glove. See glove fetish, latex fetish, and leather fetish.

Know before you try it: If using latex gloves, check for allergies.

Full glossary entry: Glove Fetish

91. Gooning

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: A prolonged, trance-like state of solo arousal, often with repetitive visual material, where the goal is to stay in an aroused state for hours without reaching a quick finish.

What is involved: People use "goon caves," long videos, and edging. It is often described as getting lost in a blank, aroused haze. Read the gooning definition for the community's terms.

Why people like it: Fans describe a hazy, drifting state where time stops mattering. Critics warn about overuse, so it helps to keep it as an occasional indulgence.

Know before you try it: It can interfere with sleep, work, and real-life relationships if it becomes compulsive. Notice if it stops being fun.

Full glossary entry: Gooning

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92. Hair Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to hair: its length, color, texture, and smell. Some people also like the act of brushing, braiding, or being pulled by it.

What is involved: Brushing a partner's hair, running fingers through it, or smelling it. It overlaps with redhead fetish. Read our deeper dive: Hair Fetish 101 and the hair fetish glossary page.

Know before you try it: Hair pulling should be agreed in advance, and never pull so hard it risks injury.

Full glossary entry: Hair Fetish

93. Hair Pulling

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Grabbing or tugging hair during sex or play for control, intensity, or dominance. It is one of the most common ways kink shows up in vanilla sex.

What is involved: Handfuls at the roots work better than a pinch at the ends. Used in dom/sub scenes to direct movement. Related to hair fetish.

Know before you try it: Pull close to the scalp, not the ends, and be careful with extensions and wigs.

Related glossary entry: Hair Fetish

94. Hand Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to hands, including the look of fingers, nails, veins, and the way someone uses them.

What is involved: Fans enjoy watching hands do tasks, being touched by hands, or seeing them in gloves. See glove fetish and nail fetish.

Know before you try it: Keep nails trimmed and filed if they are going to be in any intimate contact.

Related glossary entry: Glove Fetish

95. Harness Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to body harnesses, usually leather, that wrap around the torso and thighs. They frame the body and signal readiness for play.

What is involved: Worn as clothing or as part of bondage, with D-rings for attachments. See harness fetish.

Know before you try it: Make sure straps are adjustable and do not dig in or restrict breathing.

Full glossary entry: Harness Fetish

96. Heel Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to high heels, in terms of the look, the sound, the arch they give the foot, and the posture they create.

What is involved: Stilettos, platforms, and boots are all popular. Some people enjoy being stepped on by heels, others just love the sound of them on the floor. Take a look at the long-form Heel Fetish Explained or the heel fetish glossary page.

Know before you try it: Stilettos concentrate pressure, so keep any stepping off sensitive areas.

Full glossary entry: Heel Fetish

97. Hogtie

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: A restraint position in which wrists and ankles are tied together behind the back, leaving the person lying face down and unable to move much.

What is involved: A classic in bondage photography and a staple of rope bondage play. It looks dramatic but is physically demanding on the shoulders, hips, and breathing.

Know before you try it: Never leave someone alone in a hogtie, and avoid keeping them on their stomach for long as it can restrict breathing. Check circulation constantly.

Related glossary entry: Bondage

98. Hotwifing

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: A woman in a committed relationship has sex with other people with her partner's knowledge, enthusiasm, and sometimes participation. The husband's focus is on her pleasure and confidence.

What is involved: Rules are agreed in advance, including safer sex, who, when, and how much detail is shared. See hotwifing and the cousin practice cuckolding.

Why people like it: Many partners find joy in seeing their other half confident, desired, and enjoying themselves. It can also stir up excitement and strengthen communication.

Know before you try it: Honest, regular check-ins keep everyone feeling secure. Jealousy is normal, and a good plan has space for it.

Full glossary entry: Hotwifing

99. Hucow

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A fantasy in which a person plays a "human cow," often with themes of milking and lactation. It combines pet play with lactation kink.

What is involved: Costume ears, cowbells, hand-milking mimicry, and sometimes breast pumps. It can be playful or strict.

Know before you try it: Pumps should be used carefully and never to the point of pain.

Related glossary entry: Lactation Kink

100. Human Furniture

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A person acts as a footstool, table, or chair for another. The player holds a position, often for a long time, as part of a submission or objectification fantasy.

What is involved: Common poses include hands and knees as a footrest or lying flat as a table. See human furniture and objectification play.

Know before you try it: Hold poses for short periods at first. Joints, wrists, and knees can get sore quickly. Make sure the person can signal when they need to move.

Full glossary entry: Human Furniture

101. Humiliation Play

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Deliberately embarrassing or belittling a partner within a consensual scene. The thrill comes from the emotional vulnerability, the power imbalance, and the relief afterward.

What is involved: Verbal teasing, forced tasks, public (but discreet) challenges, or "punishment" for failure. It is related to degradation kink but more situational. See humiliation play.

Why people like it: The rush comes from vulnerability and the relief of being accepted anyway. People who spend their days in control or in the spotlight often enjoy the chance to be taken down a notch in private.

Know before you try it: Not every word is safe for every person, so agree a list in advance. Plan extra aftercare.

Full glossary entry: Humiliation Play

102. Hypnosis Kink

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Arousal from being, or guiding someone, into a trance-like state where suggestions feel easier to accept. It can be as simple as a guided relaxation or as elaborate as a full roleplay.

What is involved: Voice, rhythm, and imagery are the main tools. Audio files are popular for solo use. Pair with bimbofication or mind control fantasy themes. See hypnosis kink.

Why people like it: The idea of surrendering to a calm, steady voice is deeply relaxing. Many people say a good trance feels like a warm bath for the mind.

Know before you try it: Real hypnosis cannot make you do something you wouldn't consent to. Be wary of anyone who claims otherwise, and never drive or operate machinery afterward.

Full glossary entry: Hypnosis Kink

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103. Impact Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Any play where the body is struck, from hands to paddles, floggers, canes, and crops. It is the umbrella term for most of what people picture when they hear "kink."

What is involved: A good impact scene starts with a light warm-up, builds in intensity, and ends with a cooldown. Different tools have different feels: thuddy (paddles), stingy (canes, crops), or wide and sweeping (floggers). Spanking is where most people start. Read impact play for the full guide.

Why people like it: The brain responds to controlled impact with endorphins and adrenaline. After the initial sting, many feel warm, floaty, and deeply relaxed.

Know before you try it: Stay on muscle and fat, away from the spine, kidneys, joints, and tailbone. Endorphins can mask pain, so bruising may surprise you the next day.

Full glossary entry: Impact Play

104. Infidelity Fantasy

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: Arousal from stories of cheating or "forbidden" affairs, played out as fiction or roleplay, with no one actually betrayed. The thrill is secrecy and risk, not harm.

What is involved: Scenes might involve sneaking around, hotel rooms, or being caught. It is related to cuckolding and hotwifing, but those involve agreement, whereas the fantasy is usually just a story. Erotic fiction uses it constantly.

Know before you try it: Keep fiction and real life separate. If a fantasy leads you towards actual cheating, that is worth a serious conversation with a partner or a therapist.

105. Inflation Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Arousal from the idea or sight of something inflating, such as a balloon, air mattress, or in fantasy form, a body swelling like a balloon.

What is involved: Mostly enjoyed through art, animation, and stories. Real-life versions involve actual inflatable items. It overlaps with balloon fetish.

Know before you try it: Body inflation is a fantasy only. Never inject air or any substance into your body or a partner's.

Related glossary entry: Balloon Fetish

106. Interrogation Roleplay

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A scene in which one person questions another who is tied up or held, with the "prisoner" resisting or eventually giving in. The thrill is the contest of wills.

What is involved: Bright lights, chairs, handcuffs, and a firm voice. Often combined with captive roleplay and bondage. See interrogation roleplay.

Know before you try it: Because the person being questioned plays resistant, a safeword is essential.

Full glossary entry: Interrogation Roleplay

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107. Jealousy Play

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: Using flirting, teasing, or the idea of other partners to stir jealousy on purpose, in a controlled way. The payoff comes when the couple reconnects with heightened intensity.

What is involved: Flirting with others in front of a partner, talking about exes, or staging an "almost" scenario. It sits next to compersion, the opposite feeling of joy at a partner's happiness, and cuckolding.

Know before you try it: Jealousy can slip out of control fast. Agree on limits and finish with reassurance.

Related glossary entry: Compersion

108. Jerk Off Instruction (JOI)

Category: Language & Sound

What it is: Directing someone through solo touch with step-by-step commands, either in person, by video, or by audio. The one giving instructions controls the pace and the finish.

What is involved: Typical elements include timing, countdowns, and edging. It is hugely popular in recorded audio and video. Learn more about jerk off instruction.

Know before you try it: Give the person space to say no, and respect any limits even when they are alone.

Full glossary entry: Jerk Off Instruction

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109. Kidnapping Roleplay

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A staged scenario in which one person is "abducted" by another and held. It is a form of captive roleplay and always agreed in advance.

What is involved: Set-ups include a mock ambush at home, a hotel room, or an outdoor scene. Everything depends on trust and a clear plan to end the scene.

Know before you try it: Never stage anything in public or involving outsiders. A frightening scene in the wrong place can lead to a real emergency.

Related glossary entry: Captive Roleplay

110. Kitten Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A form of pet play in which one person acts as a kitten: curious, playful, a little aloof, and loves being petted. Compared with puppy play, it is more sensual and teasing than boisterous.

What is involved: Ears, a tail, a collar with a bell, purring, and being petted or fed. The "owner" provides affection and rules. See kitten play and pet play.

Know before you try it: Any tail or toy used internally needs a flared base and proper cleaning.

Full glossary entry: Kitten Play

111. Knife Play

Category: Edge Play

What it is: Using the blade, or the threat of it, against skin. Many people only use the back of a blade or a cold dull edge to create a sense of danger without cutting.

What is involved: The thrill is the sensory contrast of cold metal and the fear of what could happen. Done properly, it relies on sheer trust. See knife play and sensation play.

Know before you try it: Use only clean, safely handled tools and keep play away from vital areas. Cutting is edge play and needs sterile gear and real training.

Full glossary entry: Knife Play

112. Knotting

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: A fantasy borrowed from canine anatomy and used in erotic fiction, where a partner swells at the base and is locked in place. It is common in monster, wolf, and fantasy romance.

What is involved: Mostly enjoyed in stories and art, since the real thing is not possible for humans. Some people recreate the idea with toys.

Know before you try it: Never use anything that expands inside the body in a way that cannot be quickly removed.

Related glossary entry: Monster Girl Fetish

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113. Lactation Kink

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Arousal from breast milk or the act of nursing between adults. It overlaps with feeding, nurturing, and sometimes hucow fantasies.

What is involved: Some couples enjoy it during or after a natural period of breastfeeding. Others role-play it. See lactation kink.

Know before you try it: This is a topic for open, honest conversation, especially for new parents, whose bodies and emotions are going through a lot.

Full glossary entry: Lactation Kink

114. Latex Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: A love of latex clothing for its shine, snug fit, and squeaky feel. It is one of the most iconic fetish materials, closely tied to rubber fetish.

What is involved: Dressing in latex takes time, with talcum or silicone shine to help it slide on. Catsuits, gloves, hoods, and corsets are all popular. The latex fetish glossary entry goes deeper, and our long read, Latex Fetish Explained, covers why the material itself is the turn-on.

Why people like it: Latex feels like a second skin, creating compression, shine, and a sensory experience unlike anything else. It also lets wearers transform into a different, more confident persona.

Know before you try it: Latex allergies exist. Hot rooms and long wear can cause overheating, so drink water and take breaks. Never use oil-based lubes with latex condoms.

Full glossary entry: Latex Fetish

115. Leather Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to leather, in jackets, boots, gloves, harnesses, and furniture. The smell, the creak, and the toughness make it a favorite.

What is involved: Leather scenes can be a full community aesthetic or a single piece of clothing. See leather fetish, boot fetish, and harness fetish. For the full story, read Leather Fetish 101.

Why people like it: Leather has strength, smell, and history. It is linked to rebellion, motorcycles, and the early leather community, so for some wearers it also carries a sense of belonging.

Know before you try it: Keep leather clean and conditioned. New pieces may smell strong and need airing.

Full glossary entry: Leather Fetish

116. Leg Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to legs: the length, shape, and the way they look in stockings or heels. It is common and often paired with a stocking fetish or thigh fetish.

What is involved: Fans enjoy looking at, touching, or being held between legs. Heels and stockings often amplify the effect.

Know before you try it: Not everyone wants their legs admired, so ask first.

Related glossary entry: Thigh Fetish

117. Lingerie Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to lingerie, from lace bras to garter sets. The appeal is the hint of what is underneath and the ritual of dressing up.

What is involved: Wearing, buying for a partner, or watching someone change into it. See our guide, Lingerie Fetish Explained, or the lingerie fetish glossary entry. Related: bra fetish, panty fetish, and garter fetish.

Why people like it: Lingerie signals intention. It is a visual promise and a ritual that lets both people shift out of everyday mode and into something more playful.

Know before you try it: Comfort comes first. Pieces that pinch or ride up take the fun away.

Full glossary entry: Lingerie Fetish

118. Lipstick Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to lipstick, particularly bold reds, and the marks it leaves. It involves the color, the application ritual, and the kisses it leaves behind.

What is involved: Applying lipstick on a partner, leaving kiss marks on skin, or watching someone put it on. See lipstick fetish.

Know before you try it: Test long-wear lipsticks on a small patch of skin before applying them elsewhere.

Full glossary entry: Lipstick Fetish

119. Little Space

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A mental state where an adult feels young, playful, and carefree. It is central to CGL and DDLG dynamics, and it can feel like deep relaxation.

What is involved: Some enter it through coloring, cartoons, or stuffed toys. Others slip in naturally during safe moments. See little space and middle space.

Know before you try it: The caregiver's job is to look after the little's wellbeing. If the experience feels distressing, talk to a professional.

Full glossary entry: Little Space

120. Lycra and Spandex Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to stretchy, clingy fabrics like Lycra and spandex, found in gym wear, leotards, and bodysuits. It overlaps with wet-look fetish and latex fetish.

What is involved: Enjoyment can come from the look of a body in tight, smooth fabric, the feel, or the snapping sound of stretched fabric. See also zentai and yoga pants fetish.

Know before you try it: Very tight fabrics should never restrict breathing or circulation.

Related glossary entry: Wet Look Fetish

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121. Maid Fetish

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: Attraction to the maid outfit and the service fantasy that goes with it: the black dress, white apron, and "yes, sir" attitude. It ties into uniform fetish and service submission.

What is involved: Cleaning games, serving tea, and being given orders. Some couples run an elaborate "household" dynamic. See maid fetish.

Know before you try it: Roleplay about service should never be a way to dodge real housework resentment. Keep it fun.

Full glossary entry: Maid Fetish

122. Male-Led Relationship (MLR)

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: A relationship in which the man leads in decisions, rules, or sex, by mutual agreement. It is the counterpart to a female-led relationship.

What is involved: Couples set out what the arrangement covers, from bedroom power play to household management. See male-led relationship.

Know before you try it: A healthy MLR is chosen and revisited regularly. Either partner can step back.

Full glossary entry: Male-Led Relationship

123. Marking and Biting

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Leaving temporary marks such as bite marks, scratches, or hickeys on a partner's skin. For many it is a physical reminder of an intense encounter.

What is involved: Biting, scratching, and sucking to the point of bruising. It is common in vanilla and kinky sex alike, and it often appears in impact play scenes as a finishing touch.

Know before you try it: Be mindful of visible places, broken skin, and infection risk. Never bite hard enough to draw blood without discussing it first.

Related glossary entry: Sensation Play

124. Mask Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to masks, from lace eye masks to full latex hoods. The anonymity, mystery, and loss of identity can all be powerful.

What is involved: Wearing or admiring masks. Gas masks and hoods are intense versions. See mask fetish.

Know before you try it: Anything covering the nose and mouth must allow full breathing, and the wearer should have an easy way to signal to remove it.

Full glossary entry: Mask Fetish

125. Masochism

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Enjoying receiving pain, humiliation, or intense sensation. A masochist finds pleasure, release, or emotional catharsis in what others might find unpleasant.

What is involved: Masochism does not mean enjoying all pain, only the kind that is chosen, controlled, and in context. It is the mirror of sadism, and the two together form sadomasochism.

Why people like it: Pain in a safe context triggers endorphins and a floaty, high feeling. Many masochists also find it cathartic, a way to process stress or feel present in their body.

Know before you try it: Pain thresholds vary from day to day, so check in regularly.

Related glossary entry: Masochist

126. Master/Slave Dynamic

Category: Power & Control

What it is: A deep-power exchange in which one person (the slave) gives up much of their autonomy to another (the master or mistress). In consensual versions it is carefully negotiated and often written into a contract.

What is involved: Rules, protocols, tasks, and rituals fill daily life. Many also use a collaring ceremony. See master/slave dynamic and total power exchange.

Know before you try it: The consent never goes away, even when the structure is intense. A healthy arrangement always has an exit.

Full glossary entry: Master/Slave Dynamic

127. Mature Women Attraction

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: A strong attraction to women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond, often described as MILF or "cougar" interest, though many prefer neutral terms. Fans value confidence, experience, and the sense that she knows exactly what she wants.

What is involved: The appeal often has less to do with looks than with attitude: direct communication, no games, and comfort in her own skin. Many enjoy age-gap dynamics between adults too. If this is your thing, browse our creators directory and look for the mature models.

Know before you try it: Everyone involved is an adult. Preference is fine, but avoid reducing women to a label or an age.

128. MDLB

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: Mommy Dom / Little Boy, a dynamic where a nurturing, authoritative "Mommy" cares for and controls a playful "little boy." It is the counterpart to DDLG.

What is involved: Praise, rules, bedtime, and comfort. Some versions are sexual; others are entirely about care. See MDLB and mommy dynamic.

Know before you try it: All participants are adults. Communicate openly about what each of you wants.

Full glossary entry: MDLB

129. Medical Play

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: Role-playing medical settings and procedures for erotic effect, from simple check-ups to clinical restraint. See also doctor/patient roleplay.

What is involved: Stethoscopes, gloves, thermometers, and a clinical manner. Some couples add sensation tools such as cold metal and rubber gloves. See medical play.

Know before you try it: Do not use real medical instruments unless properly trained. Sterile and clean practice is vital.

Full glossary entry: Medical Play

130. Mind Control (Consensual)

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: A fantasy of one person controlling another's thoughts and actions. In practice, it is roleplay, hypnosis audio, or an agreed set of rules.

What is involved: Trigger words, scripts, and trance states, all agreed beforehand. Often paired with bimbofication or service submission.

Know before you try it: No real mind control exists. If someone claims to have it, step back.

Related glossary entry: Hypnosis Kink

131. Mommy Dynamic

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A dynamic where one adult takes on a caring, firm, and affectionate "Mommy" role, often with a "good boy" or "good girl" partner. It overlaps with MDLB and praise kink.

What is involved: Pet names, praise, scolding, and comfort. For many, it is as emotionally nourishing as it is erotic. See mommy dynamic.

Why people like it: Warmth, scolding, and soft authority sit together in this role. Many people like how it feels both nurturing and firm.

Know before you try it: Because the role can touch family emotions, take care and check in when feelings get intense.

Full glossary entry: Mommy Dynamic

132. Monster Girl Fetish

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: Attraction to fantasy creatures with human features: succubi, slime girls, harpies, centaurs, and so on. It is a major theme in anime, games, and erotic fiction.

What is involved: Fans enjoy art, stories, and cosplay. See monster girl fetish and tentacle.

Know before you try it: This is fantasy. Keep an eye on what is realistic if you try to recreate it.

Full glossary entry: Monster Girl Fetish

133. Multiple Orgasm Play

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Playing with the idea of back-to-back orgasms, either as a goal for the receiver or a challenge for the giver.

What is involved: Pacing, patience, and sensitivity are key. Often used in orgasm control and overstimulation play. See multiple orgasm play.

Know before you try it: After a certain point, sensation can become uncomfortable. Pay attention to signals and slow down.

Full glossary entry: Multiple Orgasm Play

134. Mummification

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: Wrapping a person in bandages, plastic film, or tape to restrict movement. It combines the feel of complete containment with sensory deprivation.

What is involved: Wraps cover the body but leave the face clear. Often combined with bondage. See mummification play.

Know before you try it: Never wrap the head or neck, keep scissors close, and watch for overheating. Do not leave someone alone.

Full glossary entry: Mummification

135. Muscle Worship

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Admiration of muscle: touching, flexing, measuring, or being lifted by a strong partner. It can be a gentle compliment fest or a full submission scenario.

What is involved: Gym clothes, flexing, lifting, and wrestling. It is closely related to body worship and amazon fetish.

Know before you try it: Lifting and wrestling are physical activities, so warm up and watch your backs.

Related glossary entry: Body Worship

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136. Nail Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to fingernails and toenails, particularly long, polished, or decorated ones. The color, the click, and the scratch all play a part.

What is involved: Fans enjoy watching manicures, being touched with long nails, or light scratching. It overlaps with hand fetish and foot fetish. See nail fetish.

Know before you try it: Nails can cut. Agree on pressure and keep them clean and smooth.

Full glossary entry: Nail Fetish

137. Navel Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to the belly button. This could be the look, the shape, a piercing, or the feeling of being touched there. It is often tied to the midriff and to piercing fetish.

What is involved: Kissing, licking, tickling, or decorating the navel with jewelry or body paint. For some it also connects to tickling.

Know before you try it: Piercings need proper aftercare. Clean the area before and after play.

138. Needle Play

Category: Edge Play

What it is: Inserting sterile needles into the skin, usually superficially, for sensation or visual effect. Some people use it for decorative patterns, others for endurance and ritual.

What is involved: Practitioners use single-use, sterile needles, gloves, and skin prep. It requires proper training and cleanliness. See needle play and blood play.

Know before you try it: Infection and bloodborne disease are the major risks. Never share needles, never improvise, and only learn from an experienced instructor.

Full glossary entry: Needle Play

139. Nipple Play

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Stimulating the nipples with fingers, mouth, clamps, or toys. For many people it is among the most sensitive parts of the body, regardless of gender.

What is involved: Techniques include light teasing, pinching, sucking, clothespin and clamp play, and temperature play with ice or warm wax. See the nipple play guide.

Know before you try it: Everyone's sensitivity is different. Start gently and build only if both are enjoying it.

Full glossary entry: Nipple Play

140. Nurse Roleplay

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A fantasy where one person plays a nurse and the other the patient, usually with a caring, bossy tone and a hint of mischief. It is a uniform fetish favorite.

What is involved: Scrubs or a retro white dress, a clipboard, and a thermometer. See medical play and doctor/patient roleplay.

Know before you try it: Keep props safe, and keep real medical equipment out of it.

Related glossary entry: Medical Play

141. Nylon Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to nylon fabric, especially stockings, tights, and pantyhose. The sheen, the stretch, and the gentle sound of rubbing nylon are the main attractions.

What is involved: Wearing, touching, or watching nylon being put on. It is a close relative of pantyhose fetish and stocking fetish.

Know before you try it: Keep nails trimmed and use good technique, as nylon laddering is part of the experience.

Related glossary entry: Pantyhose Fetish

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142. Objectification Play

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Treating a person as an object, such as a table, doll, or decoration, within an agreed scene. The person being objectified surrenders voice and will for the length of the game.

What is involved: Staying still, being positioned, or being displayed. Overlaps with human furniture, dollification, and free use. See objectification play.

Know before you try it: Because the object usually cannot speak, agree on a clear non-verbal safe signal.

Full glossary entry: Objectification Play

143. Oil Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to oiled skin: the shine, the slickness, and the sense of glow. Body oil in massage and photography sits in the same family.

What is involved: Massage, oil wrestling, or just admiring a glistening body. See oil fetish, wet look fetish, and wrestling fetish.

Know before you try it: Oil damages latex condoms and many toys. Use skin-safe products and take care on slippery surfaces.

Full glossary entry: Oil Fetish

144. Open Relationship

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: A committed relationship in which both partners agree they can have other romantic or sexual partners. The details vary, so rules and agreements are essential.

What is involved: Some couples permit only casual play; others allow emotional connections. It sits alongside ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and swinging. See open relationship.

Know before you try it: Open does not mean rule-free. Agree on safer sex, communication, and what happens when jealousy appears.

Full glossary entry: Open Relationship

145. Orgasm Control

Category: Power & Control

What it is: One partner decides when the other is allowed to climax. That could mean granting, delaying, or forbidding it.

What is involved: Tools include edging, chastity, and permission rituals ("may I?"). It sits between orgasm denial and ruined orgasm. See orgasm control.

Know before you try it: Make sure the person under control can speak up if it stops being fun.

Full glossary entry: Orgasm Control

146. Orgasm Denial

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Stopping a partner from reaching orgasm for an agreed period, from the length of a scene to days or weeks. The longer the wait, the more intense the build-up for many people.

What is involved: Teasing, edging, and chastity are common companions. See orgasm denial.

Why people like it: Waiting makes everything more intense. When the build-up is long and the end is in someone else's hands, even small touches become electric.

Know before you try it: Denial that stretches on without a plan can lead to frustration. Agree on a release and an exit.

Full glossary entry: Orgasm Denial

147. Outdoor and Public Play

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: Intimacy in places others could potentially see: a car, a beach, a balcony, a quiet trail. The risk of being seen is the spice.

What is involved: This ranges from risque outfits in public to quick encounters in secluded spots. It links to exhibitionism and voyeurism.

Know before you try it: Indecent exposure is illegal in most places and can lead to serious consequences. Never involve people who have not agreed to be involved, and stay aware of local laws.

Related glossary entry: Exhibitionism

148. Overstimulation

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Continuing stimulation past the point of orgasm so that sensations become intense, sometimes tipping from pleasure into too much. Fans enjoy being pushed past their usual limit.

What is involved: Vibrators and wands are common tools. It is linked to multiple orgasm play and sensory overload play.

Know before you try it: The line between intense and uncomfortable is thin. Check in often and stop at the first "too much."

Related glossary entry: Multiple Orgasm Play

149. Owner/Pet Dynamic

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A relationship in which one person acts as the owner and the other as a pet, typically a dog, cat, or other animal persona. It is more about care and play than the roleplay itself.

What is involved: The owner trains, cares for, and rewards the pet. See owner/pet dynamic and pet play.

Know before you try it: The pet remains a person at all times. Respect and affection are the foundation.

Full glossary entry: Owner/Pet Dynamic

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150. Paddle Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Striking with a paddle, often made from wood, leather, or silicone. The sensation is generally thuddy and deep rather than sharp.

What is involved: Paddles differ in weight, size, and holes, which change the feel. Excellent for a spanking upgrade. See paddle play and impact play.

Know before you try it: Never strike the same spot repeatedly. Spread out and avoid bone and kidney area.

Full glossary entry: Paddle Play

151. Panty Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to underwear, particularly women's panties. This may include wearing them, owning them, or the idea of worn pairs.

What is involved: Fans enjoy buying, wearing, or collecting. A commercial side exists in the sale of worn items. See panty fetish.

Know before you try it: Check local rules and platform rules if buying or selling used items.

Full glossary entry: Panty Fetish

152. Pantyhose Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to pantyhose and tights: the sheerness, the feel, and the way they accentuate the legs. It differs slightly from stocking fetish since they cover more.

What is involved: Wearing, touching, or watching. Many fans love ripping or laddering them in play. See pantyhose fetish.

Know before you try it: Cheap nylon can irritate skin. Check for allergies.

Full glossary entry: Pantyhose Fetish

153. Pegging

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: A woman uses a strap-on to penetrate a partner's anus. It reverses expected roles and is often wrapped up with power play.

What is involved: Preparation, plenty of lubricant, and communication are crucial. Many couples take it slowly and use smaller toys at first. See pegging.

Why people like it: Role reversal is part of the appeal. For many couples, trying it is a way to build trust, switch up expectations, and explore new sensations together.

Know before you try it: Use water-based or silicone-compatible lube, and always check the strap-on fits securely.

Full glossary entry: Pegging

154. Petite Preference

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to small, slight frames. Fans enjoy being the bigger partner, lifting or carrying, and the contrast of sizes. It is an adult preference for adult women with small builds.

What is involved: Height and size contrast is the common thread. It is related to size kink, though it is usually a milder preference than a full kink.

Know before you try it: Keep it about adult bodies and personalities. Avoid language or imagery that suggests youth.

Related glossary entry: Size Kink

155. Pet Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: One or both partners take on animal personas, such as a puppy, kitten, pony, or bunny. It combines roleplay, obedience, and affection, and many find it calming.

What is involved: Ears, tails, collars, and training. The "handler" gives commands and treats. See pet play, puppy play, kitten play, pony play, and our guide, What Is Pet Play?.

Why people like it: Dropping human worries and acting on instinct can be playful and soothing. Many pet players say the best part is the simple affection and the sense of being looked after.

Know before you try it: Pet play is a roleplay between adults. Boundaries, signals, and aftercare are as important as for any scene.

Full glossary entry: Pet Play

156. Piercing Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to piercings, whether on ears, nipples, navel, or intimate areas. The jewelry adds a visual and tactile detail.

What is involved: Some fans enjoy looking, touching, or tugging on piercings. Others enjoy the act of getting pierced. See piercing fetish and needle play.

Know before you try it: Healing takes time and care. Wait until a piercing is healed before play.

Full glossary entry: Piercing Fetish

157. Play Party

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: A social event where kinky people gather to play, watch, or socialize. Venues range from private homes to dedicated dungeons.

What is involved: Parties have rules about consent, photography, and behavior, and a dungeon monitor to enforce them. See play party, dungeon, and munch for casual meet-ups.

Know before you try it: Read the rules before you go, never touch without asking, and respect other people's scenes.

Full glossary entry: Play Party

158. Polyamory

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: Having multiple romantic relationships with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is about love and connection as much as sex.

What is involved: Structures vary: hierarchical, solo, kitchen-table, and more. Communication, time management, and clear agreements are essential. See polyamory, polycule, metamour, and throuple.

Why people like it: People who practice it often say that love is not a limited resource and that having several close bonds suits them. It also demands more honesty and organization than most people expect.

Know before you try it: Polyamory takes work. It is not a fix for a struggling relationship.

Full glossary entry: Polyamory

159. Pony Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: Roleplay where one person acts as a pony, often with a harness, bit, and tail, and another as a trainer or rider. It can be elegant, athletic, or intensely submissive.

What is involved: Gaits, tack, and training routines make the game. Events and competitions exist in some communities. See pony play.

Know before you try it: Bits, harnesses, and hooves all need to be used carefully. Check for comfort and stop if there is any numbness or pain.

Full glossary entry: Pony Play

160. Praise Kink

Category: Language & Sound

What it is: Arousal from compliments and affirmation, such as "good girl" or "you're doing so well." It's a gentle, emotionally rich kink that is far more common than most people admit.

What is involved: Praise can be soft, bossy, or in a dominant frame. It is the counterpart to degradation kink. Our praise kink glossary entry has the full explanation, and What Is Praise Kink? digs into the psychology.

Why people like it: Being told you are doing well is powerful because most people rarely hear it. Praise can calm nerves, build confidence, and make a scene feel affectionate rather than only physical.

Know before you try it: Check which words feel good, since "good girl" is wonderful for some and cringe for others.

Full glossary entry: Praise Kink

161. Predicament Bondage

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: A form of bondage designed to put the person in a bind: stay still or suffer a mild consequence. A classic example is standing on tiptoe with a rope pulling tight if they relax.

What is involved: Creativity is key. Position, tension, and timing create a dilemma. See predicament bondage.

Know before you try it: Test setups before using them and have a way to escape fast.

Full glossary entry: Predicament Bondage

162. Pregnancy Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to pregnancy, including the look of a pregnant body, the glow, and the idea of the process. It is distinct from breeding kink, which is about impregnation.

What is involved: Fans enjoy photos, stories, and intimate scenes with a pregnant partner. Many people find pregnancy sensual and it can be a meaningful time for couples.

Know before you try it: Pregnant partners should check with their doctor about sexual activity, and comfort and consent come first.

Related glossary entry: Breeding Kink

163. Primal Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A raw, instinctive form of play where participants chase, wrestle, bite, and growl. It is less about roles and more about letting go of human manners.

What is involved: Hunting and capture games, rough wrestling, and ripping off clothes. See primal play.

Know before you try it: Strong consent conversations are needed because the scene can look like the real thing. Set limits and a safeword.

Full glossary entry: Primal Play

164. Protocol Play

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Following a set of rules and rituals: how to address a dominant, how to kneel, when to speak, how to ask for permission. Protocol turns ordinary moments into a power exchange.

What is involved: "Yes, Sir," "Thank you, Mistress," posture rules, and routines such as morning greetings. Common in dom/sub dynamic and master/slave arrangements.

Know before you try it: Rules should be clear, written down, and revisited from time to time. Ambiguity breeds problems.

Related glossary entry: Dominant/Submissive Dynamic

165. Public Humiliation (Discreet)

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: Subtle acts of embarrassment in public settings that only the participants understand. Examples include wearing a hidden toy or following a private rule.

What is involved: These are low-key and keep the secret between the couple, such as writing on a hand or wearing something under the clothes. See humiliation play.

Know before you try it: Keep it discreet. Do not involve other people or risk real embarrassment or legal trouble.

Related glossary entry: Humiliation Play

166. Puppy Play

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A form of pet play in which one person acts as a puppy: playful, eager to please, and happiest chasing a ball or getting a belly rub. Often associated with hoods, tails, and a handler.

What is involved: Collar, leash, mask, and treats. A large puppy play community also exists with its own events. See puppy play and pet play.

Why people like it: Puppies get to be silly, energetic, and uncomplicated. Handlers get a loyal, enthusiastic companion. It often feels more like play than anything erotic.

Know before you try it: Full hoods and masks need airflow. Check in often.

Full glossary entry: Puppy Play

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167. Queening

Category: Power & Control

What it is: A form of facesitting in which a woman, "the queen," sits on her partner's face, often as part of a dominant or worshipping dynamic.

What is involved: Positioning, comfort, and signals are important. The partner underneath is usually in a service role.

Know before you try it: Never block both airways. Set a tap-out signal and respect it right away.

Related glossary entry: Facesitting

168. Quiet Play

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Staying silent during intimacy, sometimes because of circumstances (roommates, thin walls) and sometimes by choice. The tension of not making a sound builds intensity.

What is involved: A rule like "not a single sound" can become a game, with a reward for success or a penalty for failure. Pairs with gag play and sensation play.

Know before you try it: Stay aware of breathing and comfort, especially if combined with restraint.

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169. Redhead Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to red hair, along with the freckles and fair skin that often come with it. It is also called rubenesque or "ginger" appreciation, and is surprisingly common.

What is involved: Appreciation for hair color, with fans following redheads on social media and in adult content. See redhead fetish and hair fetish.

Know before you try it: People are not their hair color. Respect individuals rather than a stereotype.

Full glossary entry: Redhead Fetish

170. Riding Crop Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Using a riding crop, a short whip with a flat tip, for sharp, targeted stings. It is also a visual prop for dominants.

What is involved: Small tip, big sensation. The crop can be used for taps, lines, or teasing. See riding crop play and impact play.

Know before you try it: Aim at well-padded areas and avoid sensitive spots. Crops can mark easily.

Full glossary entry: Riding Crop Play

171. Robe Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to robes, from silk kimonos to fluffy hotel robes. The casual-yet-intimate vibe is the draw.

What is involved: Wearing, watching a partner wear, or the slow untying of the belt. See robe fetish and silk fetish.

Know before you try it: Silk is delicate, so check care labels.

Full glossary entry: Robe Fetish

172. Roleplay

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: Acting out characters or scenarios, from a stranger at a bar to an elaborate fantasy world. It is the foundation of many other entries on this list, from doctor/patient to boss/employee.

What is involved: Costumes, props, and a loose script work for most people. Start with a simple setup and add detail as you get comfortable. See roleplay.

Why people like it: Playing someone else lowers inhibitions. It lets shy people say bold things, lets confident people play small, and gives couples a way to try new dynamics without having to explain themselves.

Know before you try it: Agree on how to break character if you need to.

Full glossary entry: Roleplay

173. Rope Bondage

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: Restraining or decorating a partner using rope. It can be functional and quick or intricate and artistic.

What is involved: Popular styles include Western rope bondage and Japanese shibari. Learn about the roles of the rope top and rope bottom. See rope bondage and our guide, Rope Bondage 101.

Why people like it: Rope creates a slow, tactile ritual. The tying itself is intimate, and the result can be beautiful, which is why it appeals to artists as well as kinksters.

Know before you try it: Keep safety shears close, avoid the neck, check hands and feet regularly, and never leave someone alone in rope.

Full glossary entry: Rope Bondage

174. Rope Suspension

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: Lifting a person off the ground using rope. It is often seen as the pinnacle of rope bondage and demands skill and training.

What is involved: Suspension needs strong hard points, tested rope, and proper technique. See rope suspension.

Know before you try it: Nerve injuries and falls are real risks. Learn from an experienced instructor and begin with partial suspensions.

Full glossary entry: Rope Suspension

175. Rubber Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to rubber clothing and gear, which may be latex, neoprene, or other rubber materials. It shares much with latex fetish.

What is involved: Wearing, watching, and the smell of rubber all play a part. See rubber fetish.

Know before you try it: Rubber traps heat, so stay hydrated and take breaks.

Full glossary entry: Rubber Fetish

176. Ruined Orgasm

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Stopping stimulation just as orgasm begins, so that the release is incomplete or "ruined." It is an intense variation of orgasm denial.

What is involved: Typically used by a dominant to keep a partner frustrated and obedient. It can be a punishment or part of a game. See edging.

Know before you try it: Agree on this in advance. It can be frustrating, and not everyone enjoys it.

Related glossary entry: Orgasm Denial

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177. Sadism

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Enjoying giving pain, control, or intense sensations to a consenting partner. A sadist is not someone who hurts people against their will; the "sadist" in kink is carefully focused on the partner's experience.

What is involved: Sadists usually enjoy the reactions and the power. Good ones pay close attention, check in often, and respect limits. See sadomasochism and masochism.

Why people like it: Good sadists are fascinated by their partner's responses and take real pride in delivering exactly the experience their partner wants. The thrill is the connection, the control, and the trust, not cruelty.

Know before you try it: Sadism without consent is abuse, not kink.

Related glossary entry: Sadist

178. Satin Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to satin: the smooth, glossy, slippery feel. Satin sheets, lingerie, and gloves are favorites.

What is involved: Wearing, touching, or rubbing. See satin fetish and silk fetish.

Know before you try it: Satin snags on rough skin and nails.

Full glossary entry: Satin Fetish

179. Scene Negotiation

Category: Gear & Setting

What it is: The conversation that happens before play, covering what you want to do, what is off the table, and how to stop. It is arguably the most important part of any kink encounter.

What is involved: Talk about desires, limits, health issues, safewords, and aftercare. Many people use checklists. See scene negotiation, hard and soft limits, and safeword.

Know before you try it: Negotiate when you are both calm and sober, not in the middle of a scene.

Full glossary entry: Scene Negotiation

180. Scent Fetish

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Arousal from smells, such as a partner's natural scent, perfume, or fabric. Scent is strongly linked to memory and attraction.

What is involved: Wearing a partner's shirt, sniffing worn clothes, or a favorite perfume. It overlaps with armpit fetish, foot fetish, and panty fetish.

Know before you try it: Everyone's preferences differ. Ask before sniffing.

181. Secretary Fetish

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A fantasy about the stereotypical secretary: glasses, pencil skirt, and the office as playground. It is related to boss and employee roleplay.

What is involved: Dictation, desk games, and a good-natured sense of power. See secretary fetish.

Know before you try it: Keep it as fantasy. Real workplace harassment is never okay.

Full glossary entry: Secretary Fetish

182. Self Bondage

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: Restraining yourself, often with clever systems that release after a set time. It's a solo form of bondage.

What is involved: Techniques use ice blocks, timers, or locks. See self bondage.

Know before you try it: This is among the riskiest ways to explore bondage because there is no one to help. Always have a safe, fast, tested way to release yourself.

Full glossary entry: Self Bondage

183. Sensation Play

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Exploring different feelings on the skin, such as ice, feather, wax, fur, or pinwheels. The aim is to heighten awareness and surprise.

What is involved: Often paired with a blindfold. Mix hot, cold, soft, and sharp. See sensation play, temperature play, and blindfold play.

Why people like it: It trains attention. When you notice each touch separately, even small things feel big, and that is useful far beyond the bedroom.

Know before you try it: Test unfamiliar materials on a small patch first.

Full glossary entry: Sensation Play

184. Sensory Deprivation

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Cutting off one or more senses, such as sight, sound, or touch, to heighten what remains. Blindfolds, earplugs, and hoods are common tools.

What is involved: Even a short period can feel dramatic. See sensory deprivation and blindfold play.

Why people like it: With sight or sound removed, touch becomes electric. People often describe the experience as meditative or as if the world has narrowed to one sensation.

Know before you try it: Check in regularly, and never leave a deprived person alone.

Full glossary entry: Sensory Deprivation

185. Sensory Overload Play

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: The opposite of deprivation: stimulating multiple senses at once until they blur. Music, scent, touch, and sight combine for an overwhelming rush.

What is involved: Vibrators, flogging, sound, and lights can combine. See sensory overload play.

Know before you try it: Know the signs of overload, and slow down when needed.

Full glossary entry: Sensory Overload Play

186. Service Submission

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Deriving satisfaction from serving a partner. This might mean cooking, cleaning, massage, or anticipating needs.

What is involved: Service can be formal or casual. It ties to protocol and maid fetish. See service submission.

Know before you try it: Appreciation matters. Service should feel valued, not taken for granted.

Full glossary entry: Service Submission

187. Sexting and Erotic Chat

Category: Language & Sound

What it is: Sending suggestive or explicit messages, photos, or voice notes. It's an easy way to explore fantasy, flirt, and build anticipation with a partner or a creator.

What is involved: Many people start with teasing, then add scenarios and roleplay. See personalized sexting and dirty talk.

Know before you try it: Only share images with people you trust, and never send anything you would not want to see leaked. Adults only, always.

Related glossary entry: Personalized Sexting

188. Shibari

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: The Japanese art of rope tying. Shibari is as much about aesthetics and connection as restraint.

What is involved: Rope work uses jute or hemp and specific patterns. A skilled tier combines beauty with safety. See shibari, rope bondage, and our guide, Shibari Explained.

Why people like it: Practitioners often describe it as meditation. The focus, the patience, and the shared concentration create a calm that many people do not get anywhere else.

Know before you try it: Learn from experienced teachers and avoid neck ties.

Full glossary entry: Shibari

189. Silk Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to silk fabrics, valued for their softness, shimmer, and coolness against the skin.

What is involved: Wearing, touching, or using silk scarves for light bondage. See silk fetish and satin fetish.

Know before you try it: Silk is delicate, so keep nails and jewelry in mind.

Full glossary entry: Silk Fetish

190. Sissy Kink

Category: Pets, Ages & Identity

What it is: A fantasy of a man embracing a feminine persona, often with submission and humiliation. It is distinct from being trans.

What is involved: Dressing in lingerie, practicing a feminine voice, and taking orders. See sissy kink and forced feminization.

Why people like it: For some, it is about the freedom to express a feminine side. For others, it is the thrill of transformation or the combination of humiliation and care.

Know before you try it: Be mindful: this is a kink for many, and for some it touches on identity. Be gentle with language.

Full glossary entry: Sissy Kink

191. Size Kink

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Arousal from size differences, such as a very tall partner with a short one, or large and small anatomy. Size can be part of a power dynamic.

What is involved: Fans enjoy being lifted, enveloped, or towered over. See size kink and giantess fetish.

Know before you try it: Comfort and safety matter, especially with big size differences. Go slowly.

Full glossary entry: Size Kink

192. Smoking Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to watching others smoke, whether cigarettes, cigars, or pipes. The ritual and the lips are major draws.

What is involved: Fans enjoy videos and photos. See smoking fetish.

Know before you try it: Smoking is harmful to health, and secondhand smoke too. Many fans stick to watching.

Full glossary entry: Smoking Fetish

193. Sock Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to socks, whether ankle, knee-high, or thigh-high. They may be worn, removed, or used in play.

What is involved: Fans enjoy the look, the feel, and in some cases the scent. See sock fetish and foot fetish.

Know before you try it: Check fit and hygiene.

Full glossary entry: Sock Fetish

194. Spanking

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Striking the buttocks with a hand or implement. It's among the most common kinks and can be playful, erotic, or disciplinary.

What is involved: Over the knee, across a bed, or over a bench. Begin with warm-up and build slowly. See spanking and impact play for more, or read Spanking 101 for a beginner-friendly walkthrough.

Why people like it: It is familiar, easy to understand, and easy to scale from playful to intense. The combination of warmth, sting, and anticipation produces a rush that many people find both arousing and oddly calming, and it often works as a gateway to other impact play.

Know before you try it: Avoid the tailbone and lower back. Stay on the fleshy area.

Full glossary entry: Spanking

195. Spitting

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Spitting on a partner as an act of dominance or degradation. It is a strong symbolic act.

What is involved: Usually small and on agreed areas. It sits within degradation kink and humiliation play.

Know before you try it: Because of saliva, it carries a risk of passing on infections. Talk about health and boundaries.

Related glossary entry: Degradation Kink

196. Sploshing (Wet and Messy)

Category: Food, Mess & Fluids

What it is: Getting messy on purpose: food, mud, slime, or paint on skin and clothes. Also called "wet and messy" (WAM).

What is involved: Cream pies, chocolate, mud, and foam all appear. Fans enjoy the mess, the textures, and the "ruined" clothes. See sploshing.

Know before you try it: Check for allergies, protect surfaces, and avoid sugar near sensitive areas.

Full glossary entry: Sploshing

197. Stocking Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to stockings, whether thigh-high, hold-up, or seamed. The feel and the look on legs make them a classic.

What is involved: Wearing, watching, and slowly rolling them down. See stocking fetish, garter fetish, and our guide, Stocking Fetish 101.

Know before you try it: Handle gently to avoid snags.

Full glossary entry: Stocking Fetish

198. Striptease

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: Slowly undressing as a performance. The show, the music, and the tease matter as much as what is revealed.

What is involved: Lap dances, private shows for a partner, and pole work. It sits alongside exhibitionism and teasing. Many creators offer custom striptease content.

Know before you try it: Choose music, lighting, and a safe space that makes the performer feel confident.

Related glossary entry: Exhibitionism

199. Submission

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Willingly giving control to a partner. It is a choice, and for many it feels freeing and powerful.

What is involved: Submission can mean obedience, service, or surrender. It is the other half of the dom/sub dynamic. See subspace, the floaty headspace some submissives enter.

Why people like it: People who enjoy submitting often describe a sense of peace, as if a busy mind finally goes quiet. It is common among people who carry a lot of responsibility during the day and welcome the chance to let someone else take the lead.

Know before you try it: Submission is not weakness. A good sub knows their limits and uses their safeword.

Related glossary entry: Dominant/Submissive Dynamic

200. Sugar Baby Dynamic

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: An arrangement between adults where one partner provides gifts or financial support and the other companionship. It is often open about the exchange.

What is involved: Terms are negotiated, including time together, expectations, and boundaries. See sugar baby dynamic.

Know before you try it: Clear agreements protect both sides. Be wary of scams and pressure.

Full glossary entry: Sugar Baby Dynamic

201. Swimsuit Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to swimwear, including one-pieces, bikinis, and wetsuits. The beach vibe and the fit are the draw.

What is involved: Fans enjoy wearing, watching, and the look of wet fabric. See swimsuit fetish, bikini fetish, and wet look fetish.

Know before you try it: Chlorine and sun damage fabric, so rinse after use.

Full glossary entry: Swimsuit Fetish

202. Swinging

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: Couples swap partners or have sex with others together, usually at parties or clubs. It is about recreation, not romance.

What is involved: Rules often include safer sex, "soft swap" versus "full swap," and consent at every stage. See swinging lifestyle and play party.

Why people like it: Couples describe it as adventure they share. Most say the real benefit is communication, since it only works when both partners are honest about what they feel.

Know before you try it: Communication before, during, and after is the secret to success.

Full glossary entry: Swinging

203. Switch

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Someone who enjoys both dominant and submissive roles. Their preference may depend on the partner, mood, or day.

What is involved: Switches may swap roles within a scene or across scenes. See switch and top/bottom.

Why people like it: Having both sides in your pocket means more variety, more empathy, and a better understanding of what your partner is feeling.

Know before you try it: Honesty about what you want that day makes switching smoother.

Full glossary entry: Switch

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204. Tattoo Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to tattoos: the artwork, the placement, and the story behind them. Some enjoy looking, some touching, and some getting tattooed.

What is involved: Fans might admire a partner's ink, plan matching pieces, or enjoy the act of the tattooing itself. See tattoo fetish and piercing fetish.

Know before you try it: Tattoos are permanent. Never pressure a partner into one.

Full glossary entry: Tattoo Fetish

205. Teasing

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Building anticipation with light touch, suggestive talk, and delay. Teasing is the backbone of nearly every kink on this list.

What is involved: Slow strip, near-touches, and withholding. Often paired with edging and orgasm denial.

Know before you try it: Teasing works best when both people enjoy the wait. Keep an eye on frustration levels.

Related glossary entry: Edging

206. Temperature Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Using hot and cold sensations, such as ice cubes, warm wax, or heated oils, on the skin. Contrasts make nerves more alert.

What is involved: Ice on nipples, a warm massage candle, or a cold metal toy. See temperature play and wax play.

Why people like it: Contrasts wake up the nerves. A cube of ice followed by a warm hand can feel remarkable.

Know before you try it: Stay well below scalding temperatures. Avoid anything that could burn or cause frostbite.

Full glossary entry: Temperature Play

207. Tentacles

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: A fantasy theme drawn from anime and fantasy art in which a character is entwined by tentacles. It is more visual and imaginative than practical.

What is involved: Mostly enjoyed through art, animation, and stories, with some people using toys. See monster girl fetish.

Know before you try it: It is fantasy. Be careful if you try to recreate it with toys.

Related glossary entry: Monster Girl Fetish

208. Thigh Fetish

Category: Body Part Fetish

What it is: Attraction to thighs: their shape, strength, and softness. This can include admiration, kissing, or being held between them.

What is involved: Stockings, thigh-highs, and short skirts accentuate the area. See thigh fetish and thigh high fetish.

Know before you try it: Ask before touching, as the inner thigh is sensitive for many.

Full glossary entry: Thigh Fetish

209. Thigh-High Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to thigh-high socks or boots. The line between fabric and skin is the big draw.

What is involved: Wearing, watching, and the slow removal. See thigh high fetish and stocking fetish.

Know before you try it: Make sure the tops are not so tight that they cut off circulation.

Full glossary entry: Thigh-High Fetish

210. Throuple

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: A romantic relationship among three people, where all are connected equally. It is a form of polyamory with its own dynamic.

What is involved: Balancing time, attention, and emotions among three people takes real work. See throuple.

Know before you try it: Honest communication and clear agreements make it work.

Full glossary entry: Throuple

211. Tickling

Category: Mind & Senses

What it is: Light touch that causes laughter, squirming, and sometimes a desire to escape. In kink, tickling is about power, helplessness, and play.

What is involved: Often combined with bondage so the ticklee cannot get away. Feathers and fingers are common. See tickling and feather teasing.

Why people like it: The mix of laughter, helplessness, and squirming is playful and intimate. Many people enjoy the vulnerability of being tickled by someone they trust.

Know before you try it: Laughing can mean "stop," or it can mean "don't stop." Use a safeword that is not "stop" and honor it.

Full glossary entry: Tickling

212. Top/Bottom Dynamic

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Roles that describe who performs and who receives an activity, independent of dominance or submission. A top does the action; a bottom receives it.

What is involved: A bottom may be dominant in character, and a top may be submissive. See top/bottom dynamic and dom/sub dynamic.

Know before you try it: Do not assume. Ask what roles each person wants.

Full glossary entry: Top/Bottom Dynamic

213. Total Power Exchange (TPE)

Category: Power & Control

What it is: A relationship in which one partner hands over control of nearly all aspects of life, such as money, schedule, and sex. It is the deepest form of power exchange.

What is involved: Written contracts and ongoing negotiation are standard. See total power exchange and master/slave.

Know before you try it: TPE requires extraordinary trust, self-awareness, and an exit plan.

Full glossary entry: Total Power Exchange

214. Trampling

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: A partner walks or stands on another, in bare feet, socks, or shoes. The weight can be light or heavy, and the person on the floor is usually in a submissive role.

What is involved: Positioning matters: avoid the head, neck, spine, and joints. Related to foot worship and giantess fetish.

Know before you try it: Use a spotter for balance. High heels concentrate weight, so go carefully.

Related glossary entry: Foot Worship

215. Transformation Fetish

Category: Tropes & Fantasy Themes

What it is: Arousal from the idea of a character changing shape, species, gender, or size. It appears widely in fiction, art, and animation.

What is involved: Shape-shifting, bimbofication, and monster themes. See bimbofication and monster girl fetish.

Know before you try it: Almost always fantasy and art. Enjoy it for what it is.

Related glossary entry: Bimbofication

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216. Underwear Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to underwear for any gender, such as briefs, boxers, panties, or jockstraps. The fabric and fit matter to fans.

What is involved: Wearing, watching, or collecting. See panty fetish.

Know before you try it: Comfort matters. Wash new underwear before wearing.

Related glossary entry: Panty Fetish

217. Uniform Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to uniforms such as police, military, flight attendant, or nurse. The authority and structure the clothes suggest are the draw.

What is involved: Costumes and roleplay are common. See uniform fetish, nurse roleplay, and cosplay fetish.

Know before you try it: Never wear real uniforms of the military or police in public, as impersonation is illegal.

Full glossary entry: Uniform Fetish

218. Urolagnia (Watersports)

Category: Food, Mess & Fluids

What it is: Arousal from urine, in the sight, the feel, or the act. Often called watersports or golden showers.

What is involved: Most couples start in the shower or bath, where clean-up is easy. It is frequently linked with humiliation play and degradation kink.

Know before you try it: Urine is generally low-risk on intact skin, but avoid contact with open wounds, eyes, or mouth. Drinking it is not recommended without medical guidance.

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219. Vampirism

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A fantasy of being a vampire or a victim of one. It blends gothic style, seduction, and often biting.

What is involved: Fangs, capes, candlelight, and a mock bite. Some mix in blood play, though many keep it purely theatrical.

Know before you try it: Keep biting gentle. Drawing blood is a serious step with serious risks.

220. Vanilla

Category: Gear & Setting

What it is: A term for sex that doesn't involve kink. Vanilla is not "boring," and many enjoy it, or enjoy "vanilla with a twist."

What is involved: Many kinky people also have vanilla days. Seeing it as a spectrum makes conversations about preferences easier. See vanilla (non-kink).

Know before you try it: Neither is better. The best sex is the sex you both enjoy.

Full glossary entry: Vanilla

221. Veil Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to veils, as in bridal veils, belly dancer veils, or mourning veils. The mystery and partial concealment are the attraction.

What is involved: Wearing, lifting, or watching a veil move. See veil fetish and wedding dress fetish.

Know before you try it: Light fabrics catch on jewelry and nails.

Full glossary entry: Veil Fetish

222. Vore

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: A fantasy of being eaten, or eating someone, whole. It is a symbolic and imaginative kink with art and stories as its main outlet.

What is involved: Fans enjoy illustrations, stories, and role-play. See vore and giantess fetish.

Know before you try it: A strictly fantasy kink. Do not try to recreate anything involving swallowing or harm.

Full glossary entry: Vore

223. Voyeurism

Category: Display & Watching

What it is: Arousal from watching others in intimate situations, with their consent. The thrill is looking, being unseen, or being invited to watch.

What is involved: At play parties, with a partner, or through erotic videos. See voyeurism, exhibitionism, and candaulism.

Why people like it: Watching without needing to perform can feel safe and exciting. Voyeurs often enjoy the build-up, the details, and the sense of being let in on something private.

Know before you try it: Watching without consent is a crime. Only watch people who know and agree.

Full glossary entry: Voyeurism

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224. Wax Play

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Dripping warm wax on skin. The heat is brief, sharp, and then fades into a warm glow.

What is involved: Use candles made for play (low-melt paraffin or soy). Drip from a safe height and build up. See wax play and temperature play.

Why people like it: The warmth is quick and bright, and it fades into a lovely glow. Many people like how romantic and visual it is, with candlelight and drips of color.

Know before you try it: Never use regular candles, which burn too hot. Avoid the face, genitals, and any skin with a burn already.

Full glossary entry: Wax Play

225. Wedding Dress Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to wedding dresses and bridal outfits. It combines romance, symbolism, and the lace-and-satin look.

What is involved: Wearing, photographing, or role-playing a bride. See wedding dress fetish and veil fetish.

Know before you try it: These dresses are delicate and often expensive. Handle with care.

Full glossary entry: Wedding Dress Fetish

226. Wet Look Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to wet clothing, shiny wet-look fabrics, or the look of someone drenched. It ties to swimsuit fetish and latex fetish.

What is involved: Wet T-shirts, shiny leggings, or showers with clothes on. See wet look fetish.

Know before you try it: Wet floors are slippery. Take care.

Full glossary entry: Wet Look Fetish

227. Wetsuit Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to neoprene wetsuits, which are snug, glossy, and rubbery. Surfing and diving gear are the main sources.

What is involved: Wearing, watching, or the effort of getting one on. See wetsuit fetish and rubber fetish.

Know before you try it: Wetsuits trap heat, so drink water and take breaks.

Full glossary entry: Wetsuit Fetish

228. Whipping

Category: Pain & Sensation

What it is: Striking with a single-tail whip, bullwhip, or snake whip. It is one of the most skilled forms of impact play and requires lots of practice.

What is involved: Practitioners train for years to be accurate. Even a small error can cut skin. Beginners should start with floggers. See flogger play and impact play.

Know before you try it: Only learn from an experienced teacher, and practice on a pillow first.

Related glossary entry: Flogger Play

229. Wife Sharing

Category: Relationship Structures

What it is: A couple arrangement in which the husband enjoys his wife being with other men. It is often tied to hotwifing and cuckolding.

What is involved: Rules, safer sex, and honest conversations. Some couples keep the husband involved; others do not.

Know before you try it: Both partners must be enthusiastic. This is never something to pressure a partner into.

Related glossary entry: Hotwifing

230. Worship Play

Category: Power & Control

What it is: Any form of devotion where one partner adores another's body, feet, hands, or presence. It is about reverence and service.

What is involved: Rituals, compliments, and acts of care. See body worship and foot worship.

Know before you try it: Make sure the worshipped partner is comfortable being the center of attention.

Related glossary entry: Body Worship

231. Wrestling Fetish

Category: Roleplay & Fantasy

What it is: Arousal from wrestling, whether in the form of competition, struggle, or pinning. Mixed wrestling between men and women is a popular category.

What is involved: Mats, leotards, and tap-out rules. See wrestling fetish and amazon fetish.

Know before you try it: This is a physical sport. Warm up, use a mat, and set rules.

Full glossary entry: Wrestling Fetish

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232. X-Frame (St. Andrew's Cross)

Category: Gear & Setting

What it is: A large X-shaped piece of equipment found in dungeons, to which a person can be strapped, facing in or out. It is a staple of dungeon play.

What is involved: The tied person is spread-eagled and exposed, ready for impact play, sensation play, or teasing. See bondage.

Know before you try it: Long periods on a cross can cause numbness. Check on the person often and use padded cuffs.

Related glossary entry: Bondage

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233. Yoga Pants Fetish

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: Attraction to yoga pants and athleisure wear, which hug the body. They're everyday clothes, which makes the fetish easy to indulge.

What is involved: Fans enjoy watching or wearing them. See lycra and spandex fetish.

Know before you try it: Respect people. Staring at strangers is not okay.

Related glossary entry: Wet Look Fetish

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234. Zentai

Category: Clothing & Materials Fetish

What it is: A full-body suit made of stretchy fabric that covers everything, including the head and face. It creates a smooth, faceless look.

What is involved: Wearers enjoy anonymity, compression, and the feel of fabric. Pairs with mask fetish and bodysuit fetish.

Know before you try it: Make sure the suit breathes and does not overheat. Have a way out.

Related glossary entry: Bodysuit Fetish

235. Zip-Tie Bondage

Category: Bondage & Restraint

What it is: Using plastic zip ties as restraints. They are cheap and look the part, which is why some people reach for them.

What is involved: Most experienced players avoid them. Once tight, zip ties are hard to loosen, can cut skin, and may pinch nerves. Safer options are cuffs, soft rope, or Velcro restraints. See bondage.

Know before you try it: If you do use them, keep scissors within reach, leave room for two fingers, and never leave the person alone.

Related glossary entry: Bondage

Where to go from here

You have now seen a lot of what is out there. Most people only like a handful of these, and that is exactly how it should be. Here is how to make good use of what you have read.

Work out what you like. Go back through the list and note the entries that made you curious, the ones that made you nervous, and the ones that made you feel nothing. The first two groups are worth a closer look. Our kink quiz can help turn those reactions into a clearer picture.

Start a conversation. If you have a partner, do not hand them a list and say "pick." Share one or two things that interest you, say why, and ask what they are curious about. Frame it as something you would like to explore together, with no pressure and no need for an answer right away. Our scene negotiation and limits guides give you a ready-made structure.

Read deeper. The glossary has hundreds of terms, and our blog goes into the popular ones in detail, including exhibitionism, foot fetish, rope bondage, edging, spanking, latex, and praise kink.

See it for yourself. Many of the looks and styles in this guide, from lingerie and stockings to heels and leather, show up in the photo sets on this site. Browse the photo galleries or meet the creators behind them.

Quick answers

How many kinks are there?

Nobody has an exact count, because the list keeps growing as people invent new variations. This guide covers 235 of the most common and best-known ones, and the glossary goes further.

Is having a kink normal?

Yes. Interest in kink is far more common than most people assume, and plenty of people keep it to themselves because they think they are alone. What matters is not what you like but how you act on it: with consent, honesty, and care.

What is the difference between a kink and a fetish?

A kink is something that adds to sex. A fetish is a stronger attachment to a specific object, material, or body part. One simple test: if you cannot enjoy sex without it, it is closer to a fetish. If you enjoy it but do not need it, it is closer to a kink.

Where should a beginner start?

Pick something low-risk and easy to stop, such as a blindfold, roleplay, or light spanking. Talk first, agree on a safeword, and plan some aftercare.

Can I try these on my own?

Many can be explored solo, such as sensation play, hypnosis audio, or fantasy. Anything involving restraint, breath, blood, or heat should not be done alone.

This guide is for general information for adults and is not medical, legal, or psychological advice. If a kink is causing you distress, or you are unsure about your health, talk to a doctor or a kink-aware therapist.